Restoration

[julie]

I've been having issues with my marriage for the past 4 years. It started out as small individual issues until it got deeper. My husband and I both feel deeply hurt by each other now & he doesn't feel he's at a point that he would like to do anything to restore it. I thank the Lord that my husband does not intend to leave me. But the hurt we both feel from each other has left me confused & in tremendous emotional pain. This concerns me because, my negative reactions frustrate my husband even more making him even more distant from me. We also have 2 young children who I am beginning to homeschool.

My husband on the other hand, feels that I have taken his life away from him. He says I did not trust him enough to make decisions & I always put my comfort first. He feels that my insecurities have kept him from growing.

We had a huge fight yesterday & we talked after. It didn't seem to resolve anything & I felt like it just reminded him of why he resented me.

I know the Lord does not will for us to be this way. But it's so hard to see hope past all the hurt. Please pray for restoration in our relationship. Also pray for protection on us while we go through this storm. I beg the Lord to resolve it quickly. 4 long years has taken it's toll on both of us. We need the Lord to pull through for us on this.

 

[Mary]

My dear I am in the middle of a terrible time in my 29 year marriage....a very devout priest told me to build up in my marriage, do not tear down. Now this is difficult for me because there has been betrayal....I am leaning on God to send the Holy Spirit to push me forward each day because I am trying to work through forgiveness, and the feelings we all think we are suppose to have for our spouses aren't coming easily....it is important to not get hung up on the "I'm not feeling it" part and love your husband the way God loves him. I started with small acts of kindness and each day I feel the Holy Spirit moving me through the day. It's not easy at all and some days I feel that I am failing miserably when I feel so angry at him. Your children need both of you especially with what the future holds for our young. There are so few role models anymore. The only hope for them is your strong commitment to each other, especially when you aren't "feeling it". Our 26yr old daughter always thanks us on our anniversary that we didn't break up when she was little and things were very bad. It makes me feel like it was all worth it when she expresses her gratitude to us. Lean on a good person who wants your marriage to succeed - do not talk to friends who do not value marriage as a life-long commitment. Be the person you want him to be and build him up even when you feel hurt. Don't be afraid to say you are sorry even when you feel like he is responsible for the disagreement. Trust God! He wants you to have a good and long marriage! And God Bless you for homeschooling! You have courage, you can do this, it is important that you don't give up.....life won't be easier apart from him....this I know for sure. I will continue to keep you in my prayers and you pray too - Our Lord is a healer..."Jesus, I Trust in You".

 

[Daphne]

I have prayed for you. God bless us all.~Daphne