We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, for we see a situation unfolding that is filled with both longing and deep danger. The cry here is for purity, for love, and for God’s intervention—and we join in that cry, but we must also speak the truth in love, for what is being described is not aligned with the holiness and righteousness God calls His children to walk in.
First, we must address the grave concern of sexual immorality. The Scriptures are clear: *"Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB). This woman has remained a virgin, a precious and rare gift in this world, and now there is a plan to give away what belongs to God outside of His ordained covenant of marriage. This is not love—it is temptation dressed in emotional words. True love *"does not behave itself inappropriately... but rejoices with the truth"* (1 Corinthians 13:5-6, WEB). Love does not lead another into sin; it protects, honors, and waits upon the Lord.
The man in question has said he will marry her, yet he is already seeking to take what is not rightfully his before God. This is not the behavior of a man who fears the Lord. A godly man does not pressure a woman into sin, nor does he make promises of marriage while leading her into fornication. *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). If this man truly loves her as he claims, he will honor her purity and wait upon the Lord for marriage. If he is unwilling to do so, his words are empty, and his intentions are not of God. A man who loves Christ will obey His commandments, and *"whoever says, 'I know him,' but doesn’t keep his commandments, is a liar, and the truth isn’t in him"* (1 John 2:4, WEB).
To the woman in this situation, we plead with you: do not surrender what is sacred to fleeting emotions or empty promises. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, and your body is not your own—it belongs to Christ. *"Don’t you know that you are a temple of God, and that God’s Spirit lives in you? If anyone destroys the temple of God, God will destroy him; for God’s temple is holy, which you are"* (1 Corinthians 3:16-17, WEB). You have preserved your purity for this long; do not throw it away now. The Lord sees your heart, and He is able to provide a godly husband who will cherish you as Christ cherishes the Church. But this must be done in His timing and His way. *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB).
We also see the fear in this request—the fear of what may happen, the fear of being deceived, the fear of losing something precious. That fear is justified, for the enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). But God has not given us a spirit of fear, *"but of power, love, and self-control"* (2 Timothy 1:7, WEB). Now is the time to exercise that self-control and flee from this situation. Cancel the plans. Do not stay in that hotel. Do not put yourself in a place where temptation will overpower wisdom. *"Make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts"* (Romans 13:14, WEB). Instead, run to the Lord and let Him be your refuge. *"The name of the Lord is a strong tower: the righteous run to him, and are safe"* (Proverbs 18:10, WEB).
As for the mention of paying for his ticket, we must ask: is this truly wisdom? Are you enabling sin by facilitating this meeting? *"Don’t participate in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead even reprove them"* (Ephesians 5:11, WEB). If you are the one who has arranged this, we urge you to repent and withdraw your support from this sinful plan. You will be held accountable for your part in it.
Now, let us pray with urgency and faith:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, interceding for this precious sister who has sought to honor You with her body for so many years. Lord, we ask that You intervene mightily in this situation. Expose every lie, every deception, every impure motive. Convict the hearts of both this woman and this man with the weight of their sin, and grant them repentance leading to life. Father, do not let them proceed down this path of destruction. Place a hedge of protection around this woman—block every door that would lead her into sin. Give her the strength to flee, to say no, to turn away from this temptation. Let her fear You more than she fears losing this man or being alone.
Lord, if this man is not truly Yours, if his heart is not surrendered to You, then remove him from her life. Do not let her be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. But if he is Your child, then convict him deeply of his sin. Let him see the gravity of leading Your daughter into fornication. Let him understand that marriage is a covenant before You, and it must be entered into with purity and honor. Do not let him defile her or himself.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of lust, deception, and fear that is at work here. We bind every demonic influence seeking to destroy these lives, and we loose the power of the Holy Spirit to bring conviction, repentance, and restoration. Let Your truth prevail. Let Your will be done.
We pray for this woman’s heart to be guarded and her mind to be renewed. Remind her that her worth is in You, not in the approval or affection of any man. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and let her find her satisfaction in You alone. If it is Your will for her to be married, then provide a godly husband who will love her as Christ loves the Church—a man who will lead her in righteousness, not in sin.
We also lift up the one who wrote this request. If they have played a part in enabling this situation, we pray for their repentance and wisdom. Let them see the seriousness of their actions and turn away from anything that would lead others into sin.
Lord, we ask for Your divine intervention. Disrupt these plans. Bring light into the darkness. Let Your mercy triumph over judgment, and let Your grace lead them to repentance. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against them in judgment, You shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord (Isaiah 54:17).
We thank You, Father, that You are faithful, even when we are faithless. We thank You that You hear our prayers and that You are able to save to the uttermost. We trust in You, and we commit this situation into Your hands. May Your will be done, and may Your name be glorified in all things. In the precious and mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we urge you: if you have not already, confess this situation to a mature believer or pastor who can provide accountability and guidance. Do not walk this path alone. *"Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective"* (James 5:16, WEB). There is still time to turn away from this sin. The Lord is merciful, and He will forgive and restore if you repent and seek His face. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9, WEB).
Stand firm in the Lord, and do not give the enemy a foothold. The battle is the Lord’s, and He will fight for you if you will trust in Him.