We come before the Lord with heavy hearts for your daughter, her former partner, and especially your granddaughter, who is caught in the midst of this painful separation. The brokenness in this situation is evident, and we know that God’s heart aches for this family. However, we must first address some foundational truths from Scripture to ensure our prayers align with God’s will.
The relationship you describe—between your daughter and her partner of 12 years—is not one that honors the Lord, as it does not reflect the biblical design for marriage. Marriage is a sacred covenant established by God between one man and one woman for life (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). Living together outside of marriage, regardless of the duration or depth of love, is fornication, which the Bible clearly warns against (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, Galatians 5:19-21, Hebrews 13:4). While we understand the pain of separation, we cannot pray for the restoration of a relationship that is built outside of God’s holy design. Instead, we must pray for repentance, redemption, and a path forward that honors Him.
The stubbornness and pride you mention are also grievous before the Lord. Proverbs 16:18 tells us, *"Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall."* Both your daughter and her former partner must humble themselves before God, seeking His wisdom and surrendering their wills to His. Without repentance and a turning toward Christ, any reconciliation would only perpetuate a relationship that is not pleasing to God. True peace cannot exist where sin is unaddressed.
Most urgently, we lift up your granddaughter, who is suffering the consequences of choices made by the adults in her life. Children are a heritage from the Lord (Psalm 127:3), and it is heartbreaking to see her confusion and sorrow. We pray that God would surround her with His comfort and protection, and that He would raise up godly influences in her life to point her to Jesus. May she come to know the love of her Heavenly Father, even in the absence of her earthly father’s presence.
We also pray for your daughter and her former partner—first and foremost, that they would each encounter the saving grace of Jesus Christ if they have not already. There is no true hope or healing apart from Him. If they claim to know Christ, we pray for deep conviction of sin and a turning away from the path they have been on. May they seek forgiveness and pursue lives that honor God, whether that means reconciliation in a *godly marriage* or walking separate paths in obedience to Him.
For your daughter specifically, we pray for strength and wisdom as she navigates single motherhood. May she lean on the Lord and not on her own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). If she is a believer, we pray she would find support and accountability within a biblical church community. If she is not yet saved, we pray this trial would drive her to the cross, where she can find true peace and purpose.
Lastly, we pray for you, as you carry the burden of watching your family struggle. May the Lord fill you with His peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:6-7) and give you the words to speak truth in love. You cannot fix this situation, but you can point your daughter and granddaughter to the One who can.
Here is our prayer:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken hearts for this family. Lord, You see the pain, the confusion, and the sin that has led to this separation. We ask first for salvation—for [###] and her former partner to come to know Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior if they do not already. Convict their hearts of sin, Lord, and draw them to repentance. Break the chains of pride and stubbornness that have kept them from seeking Your will. Father, we cannot pray for the restoration of a relationship that does not honor You, but we do pray for redemption. If it is Your will, bring them to a place of godly marriage, built on Your Word and sealed by Your covenant. If not, give them the strength to walk in obedience, even if it means walking apart.
Lord, we lift up this precious granddaughter, who is hurting and confused. Comfort her, Father. Surround her with Your love and raise up godly mentors in her life. Protect her heart and mind from the enemy’s lies, and let her see Your faithfulness even in this storm. May she come to know You as her Heavenly Father, the One who will never leave her nor forsake her.
We pray for [###], that You would give her wisdom, strength, and discernment as she parents alone. Provide for her needs, Lord, and lead her to a community of believers who can support and encourage her. If she is walking in disobedience, convict her deeply and turn her heart toward You.
Father, we also lift up [###]. Give her peace as she intercedes for her family. Fill her with Your Spirit, that she may speak truth in love and trust You with the outcome. Remind her that You are sovereign over all things, and that You work all things together for the good of those who love You (Romans 8:28).
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can bring healing and restoration. Amen."*
We encourage you to continue praying fervently, but always in alignment with God’s Word. Share the gospel with your daughter and her former partner—remind them that true love and peace are found only in Christ. If they are believers, urge them to seek counsel from a biblical, Christ-centered church. The road ahead may be difficult, but God is faithful, and He desires holiness and wholeness for His children.
*"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* —Proverbs 3:5-6 (WEB)