REPENTANCE OF A ONE-SIDED RELATIONSHIP (So Marriage is Two-sided, Biblical)...

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We hear your heart in this matter, and we understand the deep pain that comes from being in a relationship that does not reflect God’s design for marriage—a covenant between one man and one woman, built on mutual love, respect, and commitment. The Bible makes it clear that marriage is a sacred union, a picture of Christ’s love for His church (Ephesians 5:22-33). When one side is unwilling to honor this covenant, it brings brokenness not only to the individuals involved but to the very heart of God, who instituted marriage for His glory.

First, we must address the need for repentance. If there has been any sin in this relationship—whether it be emotional or physical unfaithfulness, idolatry of the other person, or compromise of biblical standards—we must turn away from it completely. The Lord calls us to holiness, and any relationship that does not honor Him must be surrendered. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). Repentance is not just sorrow over sin; it is a turning away from it and toward God’s will.

We also recognize that you may be carrying wounds from this one-sided relationship—feelings of rejection, loneliness, or even bitterness. But we want to remind you that your worth is not found in another person’s ability or willingness to love you. Your worth is found in Christ, who loved you so much that He gave His life for you (John 3:16). You are deeply valued by the Creator of the universe, and He has a plan for your life that is good, even when it doesn’t feel that way.

If this relationship has involved sexual immorality—whether fornication (sex outside of marriage) or emotional intimacy that has crossed biblical boundaries—we must bring that before the Lord in repentance. The Bible is clear that sexual purity is a requirement for those who follow Christ. "Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s" (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If this applies to your situation, we encourage you to confess this sin, turn away from it, and seek accountability with a trusted believer or mentor.

We must also ask: Is this person a believer? The Bible warns us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this individual does not share your faith in Jesus Christ, this relationship cannot honor God in the way He intends. Marriage is meant to be a partnership in the Lord, where both spouses encourage one another in their walk with Christ. If that foundation is missing, the relationship will only lead to heartache.

Now, let us come before the Lord together in prayer:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, knowing that You see the pain and confusion in this situation. Lord, we ask for Your forgiveness where there has been sin—whether in thought, word, or deed. Cleanse this heart, O God, and restore purity and holiness. We pray for wisdom and discernment to see this relationship through Your eyes. If this is not Your will, give the strength to walk away, trusting that You have something better in store.

Father, we rebuke any spirit of idolatry that may have taken root, where this person or the idea of this relationship has been placed above You. We declare that You alone are worthy of our devotion, and we surrender this situation into Your hands. Heal the wounds of rejection and loneliness, and fill this heart with Your perfect peace. Remind them that their identity is found in Christ alone, and that You are working all things together for their good (Romans 8:28).

Lord, if this relationship is not honoring to You, we ask that You break any unhealthy soul ties and set this individual free. Give them the courage to pursue Your will, even when it is difficult. Surround them with godly community—believers who will speak truth, offer accountability, and encourage them in their walk with You.

We also pray for the other person in this relationship. If they do not know You, Lord, we ask that You draw them to Yourself. Soften their heart to receive the gospel and the truth of Your Word. If they are a believer but are walking in disobedience, convict them of their sin and lead them to repentance. May they seek Your will above their own desires.

Father, we trust in Your sovereignty. You know the plans You have for us—plans for welfare and not for evil, to give us a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). We surrender this relationship to You, asking that You either restore it according to Your will or close the door completely. Give clarity, peace, and the strength to follow wherever You lead.

In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.

Friend, we want to encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can walk alongside you in this season. Sometimes, we need the perspective of others to see clearly what the Lord is doing. Surround yourself with people who will pray for you, hold you accountable, and remind you of God’s truth when the enemy tries to lie to you.

Remember, God is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Even in this pain, He is working. Trust in Him, and do not lean on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). If this relationship is not aligned with His will, He has something better waiting for you. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).

 

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We're here with you, friend, and we understand the struggle you're facing. It's tough when a relationship isn't balanced and healthy, especially when it's not reflecting God's design for us. We want to encourage you to keep seeking God's heart in this, and remember that your worth is not defined by someone else's actions or choices.

We're praying for you, that God would give you clarity and wisdom. We ask that He would heal any wounds you're carrying, and fill you with His peace and love. We also pray that if this relationship isn't honoring to Him, that He would give you the strength to walk away, trusting that He has something better planned for you.

Let's keep lifting this up to Him together, okay? We're here for you.