We join you in lifting up your heart’s cry to our Heavenly Father, and we thank you for coming before Him in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we are saved and through whom we have access to the throne of grace. Your plea is heard, beloved, and we stand with you in the authority of Christ to rebuke the darkness that has sought to bring strife, confusion, and bitterness into your home. The enemy comes only to steal, kill, and destroy, but Jesus came that you may have life, and have it abundantly (John 10:10). You are not alone in this battle, for the Lord is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
The Word of God is clear about the dangers of alcohol and the strife it brings. Proverbs 20:1 warns, *"Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by them is not wise."* Similarly, Proverbs 23:29-30 asks, *"Who has woe? Who has sorrow? Who has strife? Who has complaints? Who has needless bruises? Who has bloodshot eyes? Those who stay long at the wine; those who go to seek mixed wine."* The behavior you describe is not of God but is the fruit of the flesh, and it has no place in a home that seeks to honor Him. Ephesians 5:18 commands us, *"Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit."* This man’s actions are not only harmful to himself but are also bringing destruction into your life, and this must be addressed with the truth of God’s Word and the power of prayer.
We also recognize the deep pain and weariness in your heart. It is not wrong to desire peace, and it is right to seek God’s intervention when sin and chaos threaten your well-being. However, we must also examine our own hearts in this situation. While it is understandable to feel anger and frustration, we are called to respond in a way that honors Christ. Romans 12:18-19 reminds us, *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'"* This does not mean you must endure abuse or remain in a harmful situation. You have the right—and the responsibility—to seek safety and godly counsel. But it does mean releasing this man into God’s hands, trusting that the Lord will deal with him justly.
If this man is your husband, we urge you to pray for his repentance and salvation, for God desires that none should perish but that all should come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). Pray that the Holy Spirit would convict his heart and draw him to Christ. If he is not your husband, we must ask: is there a relationship here that is not honoring to God? Are you living with someone outside of marriage? If so, this is fornication, and it is sin in the eyes of the Lord (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). We say this not to condemn you but to call you to holiness, for God’s ways are for your protection and blessing. If this is the case, we strongly encourage you to seek godly counsel and make decisions that align with Scripture, even if it means separating from this situation for your own spiritual and emotional well-being.
Now, let us pray together over this situation, binding the works of the enemy and inviting the peace of Christ to reign in your home:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, the name above all names. We thank You that You are a God who sees, who hears, and who acts on behalf of Your children. Lord, we lift up our sister who is weary and burdened by the strife and chaos in her home. We ask that You would surround her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guarding her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Father, we rebuke the spirit of alcoholism, strife, confusion, and bitterness that has sought to take root in this home. By the authority of Jesus Christ, we bind these spirits and command them to leave now, in Jesus’ name. We break every assignment of the enemy against her mind, her emotions, and her home. Lord, dismantle the plans of the enemy and render them powerless.
Father, we pray for this man. If he is unsaved, we ask that You would open his eyes to his need for a Savior. Convict his heart, Lord, and draw him to repentance. If he is a believer who has strayed, we pray that You would restore him, breaking the chains of addiction and filling him with Your Spirit. Give our sister wisdom, Lord, to know how to respond in a way that honors You. If she is in danger, provide a way of escape and surround her with godly support. If there is sin in this relationship, Father, expose it and lead her to walk in righteousness, even if it means making difficult choices for the sake of holiness.
Lord, we ask that You would remove all negativity, all strife, and all confusion from her home and replace it with Your shalom peace. Let Your presence fill every corner of her dwelling, and let Your angels encamp around her for protection (Psalm 34:7). Father, if it is Your will, we pray that this man would leave if he is not meant to be there, and that You would bring godly, peaceful relationships into her life. But above all, let Your will be done, and let Your name be glorified in this situation.
We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that the blood of Jesus covers her, her home, and her future. Restore to her the joy of Your salvation, Lord, and let her testimony be one of Your faithfulness and deliverance. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray, Amen."*
Beloved, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and in His Word. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can support you, pray with you, and provide wise counsel. If you are in an unsafe situation, please reach out to a trusted pastor or Christian leader who can help you navigate this season. Remember that God is your defender, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith, and trust that He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).
If you have not already, we urge you to surrender every area of your life to Christ. If there is any sin—whether in this relationship or in your own heart—confess it to the Lord and ask for His forgiveness and cleansing. 1 John 1:9 promises, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."* Walk in the freedom and victory that Christ has already won for you. You are not defined by this struggle, but by the love and power of your Heavenly Father. Stay strong in the Lord, and may His peace guard your heart today and always.
