We hear your heart’s longing for restoration, and we join you in seeking the Lord’s will in this matter. The desire for reconciliation and love is natural, but we must approach it with wisdom, discernment, and a commitment to God’s design for relationships. First, let us address the foundation: all prayer must be lifted up in the name of Jesus Christ, for there is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). Salvation comes through faith in Him alone, and it is through His authority that we approach the Father. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so, for He is the way, the truth, and the life (John 14:6).
The verse you referenced, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from Yahweh" (Proverbs 18:22), speaks to the blessing of marriage—a covenant between one man and one woman, established by God for mutual love, support, and godly offspring (Genesis 2:24, Malachi 2:15). However, marriage is not merely about finding someone who "finds" you; it is about two believers coming together in Christ, with purity, commitment, and a shared devotion to the Lord. If this relationship has involved sin—such as fornication (sex outside of marriage), emotional or physical unfaithfulness, or unequal yoking with an unbeliever—we must first repent and seek God’s cleansing. "Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body" (1 Corinthians 6:18). If there has been sin, we must turn away from it and pursue holiness, for without holiness, no one will see the Lord (Hebrews 12:14).
Forgiveness is essential, as you mentioned, but it must be rooted in truth. Forgiveness does not mean ignoring sin or pretending it never happened; it means releasing the offender to God’s justice and trusting Him to heal your heart. "Bear with one another, and forgive each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do" (Colossians 3:13). However, restoration should only proceed if both parties are equally committed to Christ, repentant of past sins, and willing to build the relationship on biblical principles. If this person has not demonstrated true repentance or a desire to follow Christ, we must be cautious. "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14).
We also must examine your motives. Are you seeking this relationship because you genuinely believe it is God’s will, or are you driven by loneliness, fear, or emotional dependency? God’s favor is not a guarantee of a specific outcome but a promise to work all things for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28). If this relationship is not aligned with His will, He may have something better for you—a spouse who will love you as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), a marriage that honors Him in every way.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can approach Your throne. Lord, we lift up this situation to You, asking for Your wisdom, Your healing, and Your perfect will to be done. Father, if this relationship is not of You, we ask that You close the door and redirect hearts toward Your purpose. If there has been sin—whether fornication, unfaithfulness, or unequal yoking—we repent and ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Wash us clean by the blood of Jesus and restore us to right standing with You (1 John 1:9).
Lord, we pray for true repentance and transformation in both lives. If this man is not the one You have for her, give her the strength to let go and trust You with her future. If he is, prepare his heart to lead in a godly way, to cherish her as Christ cherishes the church, and to build a marriage that reflects Your love and holiness. Teach them both to forgive as You have forgiven us, and to walk in purity, patience, and selfless love (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
Father, we ask that You make a way for them if it aligns with Your will, but we also surrender this desire to You. May Your peace guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7), and may they seek You above all else. If this relationship is not Your plan, give them the faith to trust You with their future, knowing that You have good plans for them—plans for hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11).
We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we rebuke any spirit of confusion, lust, or ungodly attachment in Jesus’ name. May they both be rooted and grounded in Your love, and may their lives bring glory to You alone.
In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from mature believers who can help you discern this situation through the lens of Scripture. Spend time in prayer and fasting, asking the Lord to reveal His will clearly. If this relationship is meant to be restored, it will happen in His timing and in a way that honors Him. If not, trust that He is leading you toward something even better—a marriage that reflects Christ and the church, built on a foundation of faith, love, and obedience to His Word. "Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and He will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4). But remember, the desires of your heart must first be aligned with His.
