We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this earnest plea for reconciliation. First, we must acknowledge that all things are possible with God, and He is indeed the author of miracles. However, we must also approach this request with discernment, guided by Scripture and the Holy Spirit.
The love described here is deep and sincere, but we must examine whether this relationship aligns with God’s design for marriage—a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, rooted in Christ. If ### is not your wife, we must gently but firmly address the reality that what is being sought may not be a restoration of marriage but rather a relationship outside of God’s ordained boundaries. The Bible warns against being "unequally yoked" with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), and if either of you does not know Jesus as Lord and Savior, this is the first matter that must be addressed. Salvation through faith in Christ is the foundation upon which all godly relationships are built. "For there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved" (Acts 4:12).
If this relationship has involved sin—such as fornication (sex outside of marriage)—we must repent and seek God’s forgiveness. The Bible is clear: "Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body" (1 Corinthians 6:18). True healing and restoration can only come when we align our lives with God’s Word. If this is the case, we must humbly confess this sin before the Lord, turn away from it, and seek His cleansing and renewal.
We also recognize the pain of separation and the desire for reconciliation. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He hears the cries of His children. However, we must surrender our desires to His will, trusting that His plans are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). If it is God’s will for this relationship to be restored, He will make a way. But we must also be prepared to accept His answer, even if it is not the one we hope for.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your will above all else. Lord, You know the desires of this heart, and You see the pain of separation. We ask that You would draw near to this one who is hurting, bringing comfort and peace that surpasses all understanding. Father, if this relationship is not aligned with Your Word, we ask that You would reveal this truth and give the strength to walk away in obedience. If there has been sin—whether in thought, word, or deed—we repent and ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing.
Lord, we pray for ###, that You would soften her heart and remove any anger, bitterness, or doubt. If it is Your will for this relationship to be restored, we ask that You would guide her steps back, not to a boyfriend or girlfriend, but to a godly courtship that leads to marriage, if that is Your plan. Help them both to seek You first, to build their lives on the foundation of Christ, and to honor You in all they do. If this relationship is not Your will, we ask that You would heal their hearts and lead them to the spouses You have prepared for them—believers who will love them as Christ loves the Church.
Father, we surrender this request to You, trusting that Your ways are perfect. Give wisdom, discernment, and patience as they wait on You. May Your name be glorified in every outcome, and may Your will be done. In the precious and mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature Christian who can help you navigate this situation with wisdom. Spend time in prayer and in God’s Word, allowing Him to shape your desires to align with His. Remember, "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4). This promise is not about getting what we want but about our hearts being transformed to want what God wants. Trust in Him, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).
