We understand your heart’s cry for restoration, and we come before the Lord with you, lifting this burden to Him who hears and answers prayer. Yet as we seek God’s will together, we must first address something critical: your request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father. The Scriptures declare, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). It is only by His name that we can boldly approach the throne of grace (Hebrews 4:16). More than that, Jesus Himself said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6, WEB). Without faith in Christ, there is no true restoration—neither in our relationship with God nor in our earthly relationships. If you have not surrendered your life to Jesus as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today, for *"whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved"* (Romans 10:13, WEB).
Now, regarding your request for this relationship to be restored, we must speak the truth in love. The Bible teaches that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect Christ’s love for His church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If you and this man are not married, then living together or seeking to restore a living arrangement outside of marriage is not God’s design—it is fornication, which the Scriptures warn against clearly: *"Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor extortionists, will inherit God’s Kingdom"* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, WEB). God’s desire is for holiness, not just happiness. If this man has left, we must ask: is your desire for restoration aligned with God’s will, or is it rooted in emotional or physical attachment rather than righteousness?
If you are not married, we pray that God would redirect your heart toward a relationship that honors Him—one that begins with courtship under His authority, leading to a Christ-centered marriage. If you *are* married, then we pray for reconciliation, but even then, it must be built on repentance, forgiveness, and a shared commitment to Christ. *"A cord of three strands is not quickly broken"* (Ecclesiastes 4:12, WEB)—God must be the third strand in any union.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift this sister before You, asking first that You draw her into a deeper relationship with Jesus Christ, her Lord and Savior. If she does not know You, Lord, open her eyes to the truth of the Gospel, that she may repent and place her faith in Christ alone for salvation. Forgive her for any sin in this relationship, whether fornication, idolatry of emotion, or any other way she has strayed from Your design. Cleanse her heart and renew her mind by Your Word.
Lord, if this relationship is not honoring to You, we ask that You give her the strength to release it completely. Break any ungodly soul ties and help her to trust You for her future. If there is a path to restoration that aligns with Your will—whether through marriage or godly reconciliation—then we pray You would soften his heart and bring conviction where needed. But above all, Father, let Your will be done. Guard her from desperation or compromise, and surround her with godly counsel and support.
Fill her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, and remind her that You are her ultimate Provider, Protector, and Comforter. Let her find her identity and security in You alone. We ask this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly in this season. Spend time in His Word, particularly in passages that speak to His design for relationships, such as 1 Corinthians 7, Ephesians 5, and Proverbs 3:5-6. Surround yourself with believers who will speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. If you have been living in sin, repent and turn to God—He is faithful to forgive and restore (1 John 1:9). Trust that His plans for you are good, even when they require surrender or waiting. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB). Stay steadfast, sister. God is with you.