We lift you up in this time of deep hurt and frustration, knowing how painful it is when trust is broken and love feels unreciprocated. The heartache you’re experiencing is real, and we grieve with you over the betrayal and neglect you’ve endured. But we must first address something critical: this prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father and by whom all prayers must be offered. Scripture is clear: *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). Without His name, our prayers lack the authority and power He has granted us. Even more, salvation itself comes through no other name: *"There is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now—repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and confess Him as Lord (Romans 10:9). Only then can you walk in the fullness of His peace and purpose, even in this trial.
Now, let us speak truth into your situation. The pain you describe—lies, prioritizing others over you, and emotional exhaustion—reveals a relationship that is not built on the foundation of Christ. Scripture warns us that *"bad company corrupts good morals"* (1 Corinthians 15:33, WEB), and if this woman consistently chooses deception and selfishness, she is not walking in the fruit of the Spirit, which is *"love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control"* (Galatians 5:22-23, WEB). A relationship without these qualities cannot honor God, and a marriage built on such instability would only bring deeper sorrow. Proverbs 13:20 tells us, *"One who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm."* If she is unwilling to repent and align her heart with God’s will, you must prayerfully consider whether this relationship is from Him at all.
We also must address something you haven’t explicitly mentioned but is critical: **Are you and this woman married?** If not, you are not in a biblical relationship but in a courtship that should be moving *toward* marriage—or ending if it does not honor God. Scripture is clear that romantic and physical intimacy outside of marriage is fornication, a sin that grieves the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Ephesians 5:3). If there has been sexual immorality in this relationship, we urge you to repent and turn away from it, for *"the body is... for the Lord, and the Lord for the body"* (1 Corinthians 6:13, WEB). God’s design for intimacy is within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). Anything outside of this is not His will and will only bring bondage, not freedom.
If you are not married, we strongly encourage you to step back and evaluate whether this woman is someone you could *biblically* marry—a believer who fears the Lord, walks in integrity, and submits to Scripture (2 Corinthians 6:14, Proverbs 31:30). If she is not, then this relationship is not from God, no matter how deeply your emotions are entangled. The Lord does not call His children to unequally yoked relationships, which only lead to spiritual compromise and heartache. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If she professes faith but her actions deny it, she is deceiving herself (1 John 2:4), and you must pray for discernment.
Lastly, we sense your weariness, and we want to remind you that **God’s will is not for you to remain in a cycle of pain**. Jesus said, *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28, WEB). If this relationship is draining your spirit, stealing your joy, and pulling you away from God’s peace, it is time to surrender it to Him—even if that means letting go. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He can heal you in ways no human relationship ever could. Trust that His plans for you are good, even when they require sacrifice (Jeremiah 29:11).
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**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of **Jesus Christ**, lifting up our brother who is weary, wounded, and seeking Your will. Lord, we ask that You open his eyes to see this relationship through Your truth, not his emotions. If this woman is not the spouse You have ordained for him—if she does not fear You, walk in honesty, or prioritize Your kingdom—then we pray You **sever this tie** and give him the strength to walk away. Break every ungodly soul tie and free him from emotional bondage, for You have not called him to a life of deception and heartache.
Father, if there has been sexual sin in this relationship, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Wash him in the blood of Jesus and restore his purity. Give him the courage to repent and turn away from anything that dishonors You. If this courtship is not leading to a godly marriage, **end it now, Lord**, and guard his heart from further pain.
We rebuke the spirit of lies that has operated in this relationship. *"No lie is of the truth"* (1 John 2:21, WEB), and we command every deceitful word and manipulative action to be exposed by Your light. If this woman is unwilling to repent, then close the door permanently, Father. Do not let our brother remain in a place where his soul is being starved.
Lord, heal his heart. Replace his hurt with Your peace, his loneliness with Your presence, and his confusion with Your clarity. Surround him with godly counsel and brothers in Christ who will speak truth into his life. If it is Your will for him to be single for a season, give him contentment in You alone. If You have a godly wife prepared for him, then align his steps toward her in Your perfect timing.
We declare that **no weapon formed against him shall prosper** (Isaiah 54:17) and that You are working all things for his good (Romans 8:28). Give him the wisdom to wait on You, the faith to trust Your plan, and the boldness to obey—even if it hurts.
In the **powerful name of Jesus Christ**, we pray. **Amen.**
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**Our encouragement to you:**
Brother, we urge you to **seek the Lord first** in this season. Fast, pray, and immerse yourself in His Word. The pain you feel now is real, but it is temporary—God’s love for you is eternal. If this relationship is not from Him, then holding on will only delay the blessings He has for you. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB).
Surround yourself with mature believers who can speak truth into your life. If you’ve been physically intimate outside of marriage, confess this to a trusted pastor or mentor and seek accountability. The enemy uses shame to keep us in bondage, but **Jesus has already paid for your freedom**.
Lastly, guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23). Do not return to what has repeatedly hurt you. If she does not change, **you must**. Walk in the dignity of a child of God, knowing that He has not destined you for a love that leaves you broken. Whether single or married, your identity is in Christ alone—and in Him, you are **whole**.
