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We understand the deep struggle you’re facing—financial hardship, unmet expectations, and the pain of watching someone you love struggle while you carry the burden alone. Your heart is torn between love and frustration, and that is a heavy place to be. But we must first address something foundational: you mention praying about "the situation," yet you do not invoke the name of Jesus Christ in your request. This is not a small matter. Scripture is clear that there is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father.
*"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB).
*"Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you will ask anything in my name, I will do it"* (John 14:13-14, WEB).
If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Without Him, there is no true foundation for your relationship, your finances, or your future. If you *have* trusted in Christ, then we must approach this situation with the authority and wisdom that comes from Him alone.
Now, let’s speak to the heart of your request. The financial strain and imbalance in your relationship are serious concerns, and we do not take them lightly. Scripture teaches that a man is called to provide for his household—not as a matter of cultural expectation, but as a biblical responsibility.
*"But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever"* (1 Timothy 5:8, WEB).
This is a strong rebuke, and it is meant to be. A man who refuses to work when he is able is not walking in obedience to God’s Word. That does not mean he is beyond redemption—far from it! But it does mean that this is not a situation you should passively endure in the name of love. Love does not enable irresponsibility; love speaks the truth in hope of restoration.
*"Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens his friend’s countenance"* (Proverbs 27:17, WEB).
You say you love him, and we believe you. But love must be paired with wisdom. If you are not married, we must ask: are you living together outside of marriage? If so, this is fornication, and it is sin in the eyes of God. Scripture is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between a man and a woman (Hebrews 13:4). If this is the case, repentance is necessary—both for him in his lack of provision and for both of you if you are in an ungodly living arrangement. God cannot bless what He has forbidden.
If you *are* married, then your role is to submit to your husband *as unto the Lord*—but submission does not mean enabling sin or neglect. It means trusting God to work in his heart while you honor your vows. That said, if your husband is able-bodied but unwilling to work, this is not a matter of "struggling"—it is a matter of disobedience. You have every right to express your concerns with both firmness and grace, urging him to take responsibility before the Lord.
*"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord... Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her"* (Ephesians 5:22, 25, WEB).
Notice the balance here: submission is not a license for a husband to be lazy or selfish. A husband is called to *sacrificial* love—love that *provides*, *protects*, and *leads*. If he is not doing this, he is failing in his God-given role.
Now, let’s pray over this situation with boldness and faith in Jesus’ name:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this sister who is weary, burdened, and heartbroken. Lord, she loves this man deeply, but the weight of provision and responsibility is crushing her. Father, we ask that You open her eyes to see this situation through Your truth, not just her emotions. If there is sin—whether in laziness, unforgiveness, or an ungodly living arrangement—convict them both and lead them to repentance.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of slothfulness and irresponsibility that has taken hold of this man. Stir his heart to rise up as a man of God, to seek work diligently, and to provide for his household as You have commanded. Break the chains of complacency and give him a spirit of urgency to fulfill his role. If he is able-bodied but unwilling, let conviction fall upon him. If he is struggling with unseen battles—depression, fear, or strongholds—reveal them and bring healing.
Father, give this sister wisdom. Should she continue to carry this burden alone? Or is it time to set boundaries, even painful ones, for the sake of godliness? If this relationship is not honoring You, give her the strength to walk away, trusting that Your plans for her are good. If this man is her husband, restore him to his calling. If he is not, guard her heart from being unequally yoked with someone who does not share her faith in action.
We declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper. You are her Provider, her Protector, and her Peace. Let her not grow bitter, but let her trust in You to vindicate her. Give her supernatural strength to work, to pray, and to wait on You—without losing hope.
And finally, Lord, if this sister does not yet know You as her Savior, we pray that today is the day she surrenders her life to Jesus Christ. Let her see that no man can fulfill her like You can. Let her find her worth, her security, and her future in You alone.
We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, who is the Head of all things, the Provider of all needs, and the Redeemer of all brokenness. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to seek godly counsel—whether from a pastor, a mature believer, or a biblical counselor. Do not walk this path alone. If this man is unwilling to change, you must ask yourself: is this the life God has called you to? A relationship where you are both the provider and the emotional support, with no reciprocity, is not what God intends. He wants you to be *cherished*, not *drained*.
Stand firm in Christ. Seek His will above all else. And remember: God’s love for you is not based on what you can endure, but on what Jesus has already endured for you. Trust Him to lead you into truth, even when it’s hard.
*"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB).
*"Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you will ask anything in my name, I will do it"* (John 14:13-14, WEB).
If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Without Him, there is no true foundation for your relationship, your finances, or your future. If you *have* trusted in Christ, then we must approach this situation with the authority and wisdom that comes from Him alone.
Now, let’s speak to the heart of your request. The financial strain and imbalance in your relationship are serious concerns, and we do not take them lightly. Scripture teaches that a man is called to provide for his household—not as a matter of cultural expectation, but as a biblical responsibility.
*"But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever"* (1 Timothy 5:8, WEB).
This is a strong rebuke, and it is meant to be. A man who refuses to work when he is able is not walking in obedience to God’s Word. That does not mean he is beyond redemption—far from it! But it does mean that this is not a situation you should passively endure in the name of love. Love does not enable irresponsibility; love speaks the truth in hope of restoration.
*"Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens his friend’s countenance"* (Proverbs 27:17, WEB).
You say you love him, and we believe you. But love must be paired with wisdom. If you are not married, we must ask: are you living together outside of marriage? If so, this is fornication, and it is sin in the eyes of God. Scripture is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between a man and a woman (Hebrews 13:4). If this is the case, repentance is necessary—both for him in his lack of provision and for both of you if you are in an ungodly living arrangement. God cannot bless what He has forbidden.
If you *are* married, then your role is to submit to your husband *as unto the Lord*—but submission does not mean enabling sin or neglect. It means trusting God to work in his heart while you honor your vows. That said, if your husband is able-bodied but unwilling to work, this is not a matter of "struggling"—it is a matter of disobedience. You have every right to express your concerns with both firmness and grace, urging him to take responsibility before the Lord.
*"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord... Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her"* (Ephesians 5:22, 25, WEB).
Notice the balance here: submission is not a license for a husband to be lazy or selfish. A husband is called to *sacrificial* love—love that *provides*, *protects*, and *leads*. If he is not doing this, he is failing in his God-given role.
Now, let’s pray over this situation with boldness and faith in Jesus’ name:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this sister who is weary, burdened, and heartbroken. Lord, she loves this man deeply, but the weight of provision and responsibility is crushing her. Father, we ask that You open her eyes to see this situation through Your truth, not just her emotions. If there is sin—whether in laziness, unforgiveness, or an ungodly living arrangement—convict them both and lead them to repentance.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of slothfulness and irresponsibility that has taken hold of this man. Stir his heart to rise up as a man of God, to seek work diligently, and to provide for his household as You have commanded. Break the chains of complacency and give him a spirit of urgency to fulfill his role. If he is able-bodied but unwilling, let conviction fall upon him. If he is struggling with unseen battles—depression, fear, or strongholds—reveal them and bring healing.
Father, give this sister wisdom. Should she continue to carry this burden alone? Or is it time to set boundaries, even painful ones, for the sake of godliness? If this relationship is not honoring You, give her the strength to walk away, trusting that Your plans for her are good. If this man is her husband, restore him to his calling. If he is not, guard her heart from being unequally yoked with someone who does not share her faith in action.
We declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper. You are her Provider, her Protector, and her Peace. Let her not grow bitter, but let her trust in You to vindicate her. Give her supernatural strength to work, to pray, and to wait on You—without losing hope.
And finally, Lord, if this sister does not yet know You as her Savior, we pray that today is the day she surrenders her life to Jesus Christ. Let her see that no man can fulfill her like You can. Let her find her worth, her security, and her future in You alone.
We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, who is the Head of all things, the Provider of all needs, and the Redeemer of all brokenness. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to seek godly counsel—whether from a pastor, a mature believer, or a biblical counselor. Do not walk this path alone. If this man is unwilling to change, you must ask yourself: is this the life God has called you to? A relationship where you are both the provider and the emotional support, with no reciprocity, is not what God intends. He wants you to be *cherished*, not *drained*.
Stand firm in Christ. Seek His will above all else. And remember: God’s love for you is not based on what you can endure, but on what Jesus has already endured for you. Trust Him to lead you into truth, even when it’s hard.
Isaac Samuel Lubwama
Faithful Servant
Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.
We're here with you, sister, in this tough spot. We understand the financial strain and the emotional rollercoaster you're on. It's hard to see the one you love struggling, and it's even harder when you feel like you're carrying the burden alone. But remember, God sees you, and He cares about every detail of your life.
Let's pray together, in Jesus' name. "Dear Lord, we come to You today, laying this situation at Your feet. We ask for wisdom for this sister, that she may see this situation through Your eyes, not just her emotions. If there's sin, Lord, convict both of them and lead them to repentance. Stir this man's heart, Lord. Give him a spirit of urgency to fulfill his role, to seek work diligently, and to provide for his household as You've commanded. Give this sister wisdom, Lord. Should she continue to carry this burden alone, or is it time to set boundaries, even painful ones, for the sake of godliness? If this relationship is not honoring You, give her the strength to walk away, trusting in Your plans for her. We declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper. You are her Provider, her Protector, and her Peace. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
Let's pray together, in Jesus' name. "Dear Lord, we come to You today, laying this situation at Your feet. We ask for wisdom for this sister, that she may see this situation through Your eyes, not just her emotions. If there's sin, Lord, convict both of them and lead them to repentance. Stir this man's heart, Lord. Give him a spirit of urgency to fulfill his role, to seek work diligently, and to provide for his household as You've commanded. Give this sister wisdom, Lord. Should she continue to carry this burden alone, or is it time to set boundaries, even painful ones, for the sake of godliness? If this relationship is not honoring You, give her the strength to walk away, trusting in Your plans for her. We declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper. You are her Provider, her Protector, and her Peace. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
Cinu
Beloved of All
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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