We hear the deep anguish and desperation in your cry, and we stand with you in the mighty name of Jesus Christ to address the spiritual warfare and relational struggles you are facing. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but we know that our God is greater, and He has given us authority through Christ to trample over all the power of the enemy (Luke 10:19). However, before we proceed, we must address some critical matters in your request to ensure we are fully aligned with God’s will and His Word.
First, we notice that your request contains language that is not honoring to God—symbols replacing words that should not be spoken or written by those who belong to Christ. As believers, we are called to let no corrupt speech proceed out of our mouths, but only what is good for building others up (Ephesians 4:29). The words we speak and write should reflect the holiness and purity of Christ, who dwells in us. We encourage you to guard your tongue and your words, for they have power to either invite the enemy’s influence or to invite the presence of God.
Second, we must address the nature of your relationship. You mention "us" and "her," but you do not clarify whether this is a marriage, a courtship, or another type of relationship. If this is not a marriage between a man and a woman who are committed to Christ and to each other in biblical marriage, then we must urge you to step back and evaluate whether this relationship is honoring to God. The Bible is clear that sexual immorality, including fornication (sex outside of marriage) and any form of ungodly relationship, is sin (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). If there is any sexual sin involved, we urge you to repent and turn away from it immediately, for it opens the door to demonic influence and separates you from the fullness of God’s blessings. Flee from sexual immorality, for your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit.
If this is a marriage, then we stand with you to pray for restoration, unity, and the casting out of any demonic influence. But if this is not a marriage, we strongly encourage you to seek godly counsel and to pursue a relationship that is pure, honorable, and aligned with God’s design for marriage. A relationship outside of marriage—especially one filled with strife, pressure, and ungodly behavior—is not of God and will only lead to further bondage.
Now, let us address the demonic attacks you describe. The behavior you mention—shouting, pressure, irritation, and ungodly desires—are not from the Lord. These are signs of spiritual oppression, and they must be confronted with the authority of Jesus Christ. The Bible tells us to submit to God and resist the devil, and he will flee from you (James 4:7). But submission to God must come first. This means surrendering every area of your life to Him, including your relationship, your words, your thoughts, and your desires.
We also notice that you are asking God to "take control" over this person’s behavior. While it is right to pray for others, we must remember that each person has free will and must choose to submit to God themselves. You cannot force someone to change or to surrender to God—this is their choice. Your role is to pray, to speak truth in love, and to live in a way that honors Christ, trusting that God will work in their heart. If this person is not a believer or is living in rebellion against God, your prayers for them should focus on their salvation and repentance, not just behavioral change.
Finally, we commend you for ending your prayer “in Jesus’ name.” There is power in the name of Jesus, and it is only through Him that we can approach the throne of God (John 14:13-14, Hebrews 4:16). However, we want to remind you that praying in Jesus’ name is not a magical phrase—it is a declaration of your faith in Him and your alignment with His will. When we pray in Jesus’ name, we are acknowledging that our requests must align with His purposes and His Word.
Now, let us pray together for you and this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, acknowledging that You alone are sovereign over every situation, every heart, and every spiritual battle. Lord, we lift up our brother/sister who is crying out to You in distress. Father, we ask that You would first cleanse their heart and their words, that they would speak only what is pure, lovely, and honorable to You. Help them to guard their tongue and to use their words to build up and not to tear down.
Lord, we pray that You would expose any area of sin in their life or in this relationship that has given the enemy a foothold. If there is sexual immorality, unforgiveness, rebellion, or any other sin, we ask that You would convict them by Your Holy Spirit and lead them to repentance. Father, we know that You resist the proud but give grace to the humble (James 4:6). Help them to humble themselves before You and to turn away from anything that is not pleasing in Your sight.
If this relationship is not a biblical marriage, we pray that You would give them the strength to step away from it and to seek Your will for their life. Lead them to a godly spouse if that is Your plan, and help them to wait on You rather than to settle for anything less than Your best. If this is a marriage, we pray that You would restore it, Lord. Heal the wounds, break the chains of the enemy, and bring unity and peace where there has been strife.
Father, we rebuke every demonic spirit that is at work in this situation—spirits of lust, strife, confusion, shame, and oppression. We command these spirits to leave now in the name of Jesus Christ. We declare that no weapon formed against our brother/sister shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we ask that You would place a hedge of protection around them and this relationship. Break every curse, every assignment of the enemy, and every stronghold that has been allowed to take root.
Lord, we pray for the person they mentioned—if they do not know You, we ask that You would draw them to Yourself. Soften their heart, Lord, and help them to surrender to Your love and Your truth. If they are a believer but are walking in rebellion, we ask that You would convict them and lead them back to You. Help our brother/sister to love them with Your love, to speak Your truth in love, and to trust You with the outcome.
Father, we ask that You would fill our brother/sister with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Remove the shame and the fear of man from them, and help them to find their identity and their worth in You alone. Give them the strength to stand firm in Your Word and to walk in victory over the enemy.
We thank You, Lord, that You are faithful and that You hear our prayers. We trust You to work in this situation for Your glory and for the good of those who love You. We pray all of these things in the powerful and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in the Word of God daily, to pray without ceasing, and to seek the support of a strong, biblical church community. If you are not already connected to a church, we urge you to find one where the Word of God is preached boldly and where you can receive godly counsel and accountability. Surround yourself with believers who will stand with you in prayer and who will speak truth into your life.
Stand firm in your faith, knowing that the battle belongs to the Lord. He is your strength, your shield, and your deliverer. Trust in Him, and do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season you will reap a harvest if you do not give up (Galatians 6:9). We are standing with you in prayer and in the authority of Jesus Christ. Be blessed and encouraged, for our God is greater than any challenge you face.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
