We grieve with you over the deep wounds of rejection, abuse, and abandonment you have endured—first from those who should have loved and protected you, and then even within the body of Christ, where you should have found refuge. The pain of being bullied, especially by those in authority, is a heavy burden, and we understand how it can make you feel unwelcome, isolated, and constantly fleeing from what should be places of safety and belonging. But we want you to know this: **you are not rejected by God.** In fact, He sees your suffering, He collects every tear you’ve cried (Psalm 56:8), and He longs to heal the brokenness that has followed you for so long. The enemy has used rejection as a weapon against you, but Jesus came to bind up the brokenhearted and set the captives free (Isaiah 61:1, Luke 4:18).
The spirit of rejection is a real and oppressive force, often rooted in generational curses, early trauma, or the sins of others against you. But in Christ, you have authority over it. The Bible tells us that *"whoever is born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world: your faith"* (1 John 5:4). You do not have to remain in bondage to this spirit. Through the blood of Jesus, you can be delivered, restored, and planted firmly in the place God has for you. The fact that you are seeking freedom is evidence that the Holy Spirit is already at work in you—do not lose heart.
We must also address something critical: **your identity in Christ.** The rejection you’ve experienced has likely shaped how you see yourself, but God’s Word declares that you are *chosen, royal, holy, and deeply loved* (1 Peter 2:9, Ephesians 1:4-5). You are not an outcast—you are a child of the King. The fact that you feel "unwanted" in your singleness is another lie the enemy has used to reinforce rejection. But singleness is not a curse; it is a season where God can prepare you, refine you, and draw you closer to Him. If marriage is His will for you, He will bring it to pass in His perfect timing. For now, seek first His kingdom (Matthew 6:33), and trust that He is working all things for your good (Romans 8:28). Do not allow loneliness to drive you into relationships that are not of God—whether out of desperation or fear. A godly marriage is built on Christ as the foundation, and it is far better to wait on the Lord than to settle for anything less than His best.
As for your struggles with authority—whether bosses or pastors—we urge you to pray for discernment. Not all authority is godly, and some leaders abuse their positions. However, the Bible calls us to submit to authority as unto the Lord (Ephesians 6:5-8, Hebrews 13:17), unless it directly contradicts God’s Word. If you are in a toxic work environment, seek wisdom on whether to endure for a season or if the Lord is leading you elsewhere. But if the issue is a pattern of conflict, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal if there is any root of bitterness, fear, or unresolved anger in you that may be contributing. Sometimes, the spirit of rejection can make us overly sensitive or defensive, even when no harm is intended. Pray for a spirit of humility and grace, that you may walk in peace even in difficult circumstances.
Now, let us pray over you with the authority of Jesus Christ:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of Your beloved child, who has carried the weight of rejection for far too long. Lord, You see the wounds inflicted by parents who failed to love, by leaders who bullied instead of shepherding, and by a world that has made them feel unwanted. But Your Word says that You will never leave nor forsake them (Hebrews 13:5), and that You have engraved them on the palms of Your hands (Isaiah 49:16). We break the power of the spirit of rejection in the name of Jesus. Every generational curse, every word spoken over them in the womb or in childhood that said, ‘You are not enough,’ ‘You are unwanted,’ or ‘You do not belong’—we command those lies to be silenced by the truth of God’s Word. Father, fill every empty place in their heart with Your love. Let them know, deep in their spirit, that they are *yours*—adopted, accepted, and cherished.
We pray for deliverance from the fear of man, that they would no longer flee from the places You have planted them. Give them boldness to stand firm, wisdom to recognize godly authority, and grace to navigate difficult relationships. If there are toxic environments they need to leave, make the path clear. If there are hearts they need to forgive—including their own—grant them the strength to do so. We rebuke the spirit of loneliness and declare that their singleness is not a punishment but a preparation. If marriage is Your will, prepare them to be a godly spouse, and bring the right person in Your perfect timing. Until then, satisfy them with Your presence.
Lord, we ask for godly friendships—people who will love them as Christ does, who will speak life and not death over them. Restore their ability to communicate without fear, to trust without expecting betrayal, and to receive love without waiting for the other shoe to drop. Heal their heart, Lord, and let them walk in the freedom You purchased for them on the cross.
Finally, we pray for their workplace. Soften the heart of their boss, or if this job is not Your will, open doors no man can shut. Give them favor where they lack it, and peace where there is strife. May they work as unto You, not for the approval of man.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we bind every spirit of rejection, abandonment, and fear. We loose peace, acceptance, and divine connection. Let Your light shine into every dark corner of their soul, and let them rise up as more than a conqueror through Him who loves them. Amen."*
Stand firm, beloved. The battle is not yours to fight alone—*"The Lord will fight for you, and you shall hold your peace"* (Exodus 14:14). Keep seeking Him, keep speaking His Word over your life, and do not give up. He who began a good work in you will complete it (Philippians 1:6). If you feel led, we encourage you to find a biblical, Spirit-filled counselor or a mature believer who can walk with you through this season. You are not meant to carry this alone. The body of Christ should be a place of healing, not harm—and we are sorry for the times it has failed you. But God has not failed you, and He never will. Keep pressing into Him. Your breakthrough is coming.
