We hear your heartache and share in your burden as we come before the Lord together, lifting up your daughter and this painful situation. The pain of watching a beloved child stray from the values she was raised with—especially into a relationship that dishonors God—is deep and grievous. We stand with you in agreement, declaring that this is not the life our Heavenly Father desires for her.
First, we must address the seriousness of what is happening. Your daughter is living with a man outside of marriage, and Scripture is clear that this is fornication—a sin that grieves the heart of God. The apostle Paul warns in 1 Corinthians 6:18, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* This relationship is not only toxic in its dynamics but is also built on a foundation of disobedience to God’s design for intimacy and commitment. We must pray fervently for conviction to fall upon her heart, that she would recognize the spiritual danger she is in and turn away from this sin.
The controlling and hateful behavior you describe is also deeply concerning. God’s Word tells us in 2 Timothy 3:1-5 about the perilous times when men will be *"lovers of themselves, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God."* This young man’s behavior reflects a heart that is far from God, and we must pray that his eyes would be opened to the darkness within him. We also rebuke the spirit of control and manipulation that seeks to isolate your daughter from her family and from the Lord. In the name of Jesus, we declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we command every ungodly influence to loose its grip on her life.
The division and chaos this relationship has brought into her life are not of God. Jesus said in John 10:10, *"The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy; I came that they may have life, and may have it abundantly."* This young man is acting as a thief, robbing your daughter of her peace, her self-worth, and her relationship with her family. We must pray that the Lord would expose the lies she has believed—that she is unworthy of love, that this relationship is her only option, or that her family does not truly care for her. We declare that the truth of God’s Word would break through the deception: *"You are fearfully and wonderfully made"* (Psalm 139:14), and *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18).
We also lift up this young man’s parents, asking the Lord to grant them wisdom and courage to intervene. Proverbs 22:6 instructs us to *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* If this young man was not raised in the ways of the Lord, we pray that his parents would recognize the destructive path he is on and take action to remove him from this situation. If they are believers, we pray they would rise up in faith and speak truth into his life, calling him to repentance. If they are not, we ask that the Lord would soften their hearts and open their eyes to the spiritual battle at hand.
Most importantly, we must pray for your daughter’s heart to be softened and for her to remember the love and truth she was raised with. The hurtful words she spoke today are not a reflection of her true self but of the influence this relationship has had on her. We pray that the Holy Spirit would convict her of her sin—not to shame her, but to draw her back to the Father’s arms. Ezekiel 36:26 promises, *"I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh."* We declare this promise over her life, that her heart would be tenderized toward the Lord and toward her family once again.
Let us pray together now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious daughter and her family. Lord, we ask that You would break the chains of this toxic relationship in her life. We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper, and we command every ungodly influence to loose its hold on her mind, her heart, and her spirit. Father, we ask that You would expose the lies she has believed and replace them with Your truth. Remind her of the love and values she was raised with, and draw her back to You.
Lord, we pray for conviction to fall upon her regarding the sin of fornication. Soften her heart to receive Your correction and lead her to repentance. We also pray for this young man, that You would confront him with the darkness in his heart. If he does not know You, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to him in a powerful way. If he does know You, we pray that he would be convicted of his sin and turn away from this destructive path. We ask that his parents would have the wisdom and courage to intervene, Lord. Remove him from this situation and place him under godly authority.
Father, we pray for healing in this family. The words spoken in anger today have caused deep wounds, and we ask that You would bring restoration. Help this mother to extend grace even in her pain, and give this daughter the humility to seek forgiveness. We declare that Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, would guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
Lord, we ask that You would move swiftly. Do not let this relationship continue to steal, kill, or destroy. Bring Your deliverance, Your freedom, and Your restoration. We trust in Your promise that *"those who sow in tears shall reap in joy"* (Psalm 126:5), and we believe that You will turn this situation around for Your glory.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved. It is through His blood that we have access to Your throne, and it is by His power that chains are broken. We declare that Your will shall be done in this situation, and we thank You for the victory that is already ours in Christ. Amen.
To the mother who submitted this request, we want to encourage you with the truth that your prayers are powerful and effective (James 5:16). Even when it feels like your daughter is far from the Lord, He is pursuing her. Continue to stand in faith, trusting that God is at work even when you cannot see it. Do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season you will reap if you do not lose heart (Galatians 6:9). Lean on the Lord for strength, and do not hesitate to seek godly counsel and support from your church community.
We also encourage you to set boundaries with your daughter, not out of anger, but out of love. If she is living in sin, it may be necessary to lovingly communicate that her choices are not in alignment with your family’s values. This does not mean cutting her off, but it may mean refusing to enable her sin. Pray for wisdom in how to navigate this, and trust that the Lord will guide your steps.
Finally, we want to remind you that your daughter’s identity is not defined by this relationship. She is a daughter of the King, and nothing can separate her from His love (Romans 8:38-39). Even in her rebellion, God’s love for her remains steadfast. Cling to that truth, and continue to pray with faith, knowing that the Lord is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20).
