We come before the throne of grace with heavy hearts, lifting up this situation to our Heavenly Father. We recognize the pain and bondage that comes from narcissistic control, fear, guilt, and emotional dependency. These chains are not of God, for He has called us to freedom in Christ. "Stand firm therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and don’t be entangled again with a yoke of bondage" (Galatians 5:1 WEB).
First, we must address the reality of this unhealthy bond. The Bible is clear that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship does light have with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). If this young man is not a believer in Jesus Christ, or if he is a believer living in sin and rebellion, this relationship is not honoring to God. We rebuke the spirit of control and manipulation in the name of Jesus, for it is written, "For you are bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s" (1 Corinthians 6:20 WEB). This sister belongs to God alone, and no man has the right to hold her captive in any way.
We declare that these chains are broken in the mighty name of Jesus! "The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to heal the broken hearted, to proclaim release to the captives, recovering of sight to the blind, to deliver those who are crushed" (Luke 4:18 WEB). We pray that every lie that has been spoken over her—every word that has made her feel trapped, unworthy, or dependent—be shattered by the truth of God’s Word. We speak courage over her, that she may rise up in the strength of the Lord and walk in the freedom He has already purchased for her.
We also pray for restoration—restoration of her mind, her emotions, and her will. The enemy has sought to steal, kill, and destroy, but Jesus came that she might have life, and life abundantly (John 10:10 WEB). We ask that You, Lord, restore her sense of worth and identity in You. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14 WEB) and that her value is found in You alone, not in the approval or control of another person.
Father, we pray for her swift and safe return home, if that is Your will. Surround her with godly counsel, wise believers who can speak truth into her life and help her walk in the freedom You have given her. We ask that You would bring conviction to the heart of this young man, that he may repent of his controlling ways and turn to You in humility. If he is unwilling to change, we pray that You would remove him from her life completely, severing all unhealthy ties.
We also lift up the one who prayed this prayer. We thank You for their care and concern for this sister. Give them wisdom and discernment as they support her, and guard their own heart from fear or frustration. May they speak life and truth, pointing her always back to You.
Finally, we declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17 WEB). We bind every spirit of fear, guilt, and obligation, and we loose the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, to guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7 WEB). We thank You, Lord, that You are a God who sets the captives free, and we trust in Your perfect timing and deliverance.
In the precious and powerful name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
