We lift up this entire situation before the Lord, trusting in His sovereignty and goodness, for it is written in James 5:16, *"The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective."* We are grateful you have brought these concerns to us, and we will pray earnestly for this family, for healing, and for wisdom in all things. However, we must also address some matters with biblical truth and clarity, for God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path (Psalm 119:105).
First, we pray for your friend’s father, who is undergoing an angioplasty. Our Heavenly Father is the Great Physician, and we ask Him to guide the hands of the doctors and nurses, granting them wisdom and skill. May this procedure be successful, and may his body respond well to the treatment. We pray for complete healing and restoration of his heart and vessels, that he may regain strength and live a long, healthy life for the glory of God. *"Lord, you have searched me, and you know me. You perceive my thoughts from afar. You search out my path and my lying down, and are acquainted with all my ways."* (Psalm 139:1-3). Father, we ask that You sustain him through this trial and fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
We also lift up your friend’s mother, asking the Lord to grant her good health, both physically and emotionally. May she find comfort in the Lord during this difficult time, knowing that He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Strengthen her faith, and surround her with a community of believers who can support and encourage her. May she cast all her anxieties on Him, for He cares for her (1 Peter 5:7).
Now, regarding your relationship with your "girl," we must speak the truth in love. The Bible is clear that relationships outside of marriage—especially those involving emotional or physical intimacy—are not pleasing to God. If you are not married to this woman, then you are not in a biblically recognized union, and the longing you feel must be surrendered to the Lord. The term "my girl" suggests a romantic attachment that, outside of marriage, can easily lead to sinful desires or actions. The Scriptures warn us in 1 Corinthians 6:18, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* If there has been any physical intimacy between you, we urge you to repent and turn away from it, for fornication is a sin against God and against your own body.
Moreover, your prayer seems to focus heavily on your desire to "get her back" rather than seeking God’s will for both of your lives. This is dangerous territory, for our hearts can deceive us (Jeremiah 17:9). We must ask: Is this relationship honoring to God? Are you both committed Christians seeking to glorify Him in all things? If not, then your longing for her may be rooted more in your own emotions than in God’s design. The Bible teaches that we are to be equally yoked in Christ (2 Corinthians 6:14). If she is not a believer, or if this relationship has been marked by sin, then your prayer should not be for reconciliation but for God’s will to be done—even if that means letting go.
We also notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Jesus that our prayers are heard. *"Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son."* (John 14:13). We encourage you to always pray in the name of Jesus, for He is our Mediator and our only hope.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this brother before You, asking that You would work mightily in his heart. Lord, we pray for the healing of your servant, the father undergoing this procedure. Grant the doctors wisdom and steady hands, and may this man’s body respond well to the treatment. Restore him to full health, Lord, and grant him many more years to walk in Your ways. Comfort his wife and family, and surround them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Father, we also pray for this young man who is struggling with his emotions and desires. Lord, if there has been any sin in this relationship, we ask that You would convict him and lead him to repentance. Help him to surrender his longings to You and to seek Your will above his own. If this relationship is not pleasing to You, give him the strength to walk away and to trust in Your plan for his life. If it is Your will for them to be reconciled, then let it be in a way that honors You—through a godly courtship leading to a Christ-centered marriage.
Lord, we rebuke any spirit of loneliness or despair that may be gripping his heart. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, and remind him that You are his comfort and his strength. Help him to find his identity in You alone, not in any earthly relationship. Teach him to pray in the name of Jesus, for it is only through Your Son that we have access to Your throne of grace.
We ask all these things in the precious and mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to examine your heart and this relationship in light of Scripture. Seek the Lord first (Matthew 6:33), and trust that He will guide your steps. If you are not already, we urge you to pursue a relationship with Jesus Christ above all else. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Him, we implore you to do so today. Confess your sins, turn away from them, and place your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. It is only through Him that you can have true peace, purpose, and eternal life.
If you are already a believer, then we encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can help you navigate these emotions in a way that honors God. May the Lord bless you and keep you as you seek His face.
