We lift up this brother in Christ who is walking through such a painful and devastating season. The breaking of a marriage covenant is one of the deepest wounds a person can endure, and we grieve with him over the loss he is facing. His heart is shattered, and we understand his desperate longing for reconciliation, yet we must also surrender this situation entirely to the Lord, trusting His perfect will—even when it is difficult to comprehend.
First, we want to encourage you in the ministry of outreach you are doing for believers struggling with mental health. This is a vital and Christ-honoring work, especially in a time when so many are battling loneliness, despair, and spiritual warfare. Your willingness to stand in the gap for this brother is a reflection of Christ’s love, and we pray the Lord strengthens and guides you as you seek to minister to him.
To our brother who is suffering: We want you to know that we are praying fervently for you. The pain you are experiencing is real, and it is okay to grieve. The Bible tells us that even Jesus wept in sorrow (John 11:35), and the Lord is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). He sees your tears, and He is holding you in this storm. While we do not know the full details of your marriage, we know that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) because it brings such deep pain and brokenness. Yet, we also recognize that there are times when reconciliation is not possible due to hardness of heart or unrepentance (Matthew 19:8). Our prayer is that if there is any hope for restoration, the Lord would soften hearts, bring repentance where needed, and perform a miracle of healing in your marriage. But even if that does not happen, we pray that you would cling to the Lord as your ultimate Comforter and Provider.
We urge you not to isolate yourself in this pain. While it is understandable that you may feel too wounded to receive advice right now, we gently encourage you to remain open to godly counsel. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 11:14, *"Where there is no wise guidance, the nation falls, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* Surround yourself with mature believers who can speak truth into your life, pray with you, and help you process this trial in a way that honors God. If you have not already, we also encourage you to seek pastoral care or biblical counseling to walk through this season with wisdom and support.
We must also address something important: your insistence on praying for your wife’s return is understandable, but we want to remind you that prayer must always align with God’s will. Jesus taught us to pray, *"Your will be done"* (Matthew 6:10), and we must trust that His plans for you are good, even when they are painful. If reconciliation is not God’s will, we pray that He would give you the grace to surrender this desire to Him and trust that He has a purpose for you in this new season. The Lord may be calling you to a time of healing, restoration, and even a new chapter of ministry or service that you cannot yet see. Remember the words of Jeremiah 29:11: *"For I know the plans that I have for you,’ says Yahweh, ‘plans for peace, and not for evil, to give you hope and a future."*
Lastly, we want to remind you that your identity is not found in your marriage or in your pain—it is found in Christ. You are a child of God, redeemed and loved deeply by Him. This trial does not define you, and the Lord is not finished writing your story. We pray that you would draw near to Him in this time, spending time in His Word and in prayer, allowing Him to heal your heart and renew your strength.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother who is walking through the valley of brokenness and grief. Lord, You see his pain, and You know the depth of his sorrow. We ask that You would be his Comforter, his Strength, and his Peace in this storm. Father, if it is Your will, we pray for the miracle of reconciliation in his marriage. Soften hearts, bring repentance where it is needed, and restore what has been broken. But Lord, above all, we pray that Your will would be done in his life. If reconciliation is not Your plan, give him the grace to surrender this desire to You and trust in Your goodness.
Father, we ask that You would surround him with godly counsel and support. Raise up brothers and sisters in Christ to walk alongside him, to pray with him, and to speak Your truth into his life. Protect him from bitterness, despair, and the lies of the enemy that would seek to drag him into deeper pain. Fill him with Your hope and remind him that You are his portion, his Provider, and his future.
Lord, we pray that You would use this trial to draw him closer to You. Heal his heart, restore his joy, and give him a vision for the future You have for him. Help him to see that even in this pain, You are working all things together for his good and Your glory (Romans 8:28). Strengthen him, Lord, and let him feel Your presence in a powerful way.
We also lift up the sister who is seeking this divorce. Father, we pray that You would work in her heart as well. If there is any openness to reconciliation, we ask that You would convict her and draw her back. But regardless, Lord, we pray that You would bring healing and redemption to both of their lives.
Finally, Father, we thank You that You are the God who restores, who heals, and who makes all things new. We trust You with our brother’s life, and we ask that You would use this trial to refine him, to deepen his faith, and to prepare him for the good works You have prepared in advance for him to do (Ephesians 2:10).
In the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
