We hear your pain, and our hearts ache with yours as you navigate this heartbreaking situation. What you are feeling is valid—betrayal cuts deep, and the thought of someone you care for being unfaithful is devastating. But we must address this with truth and love, rooted in God’s Word.
First, we must rebuke the sin of sexual immorality in this situation. The Bible is clear that sexual relations belong only within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. Hebrews 13:4 (WEB) says, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* If this man has slept with another woman while involved with you, he has committed fornication, and if he is married, adultery. This is not just a personal failing—it is sin against God, against you, and against the other woman. We must call it what it is and not soften the truth.
We also must address the state of your relationship with this man. If you are not married, Scripture is clear that intimacy outside of marriage is sin. 1 Corinthians 6:18 (WEB) says, *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* If you have been physically intimate with him, we must repent and turn away from that path. God’s design for love is holy, and His boundaries are for our protection.
Now, let us pray together in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we have access to the Father and the only name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12).
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister who is hurting deeply. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the confusion she is feeling. We ask that You would surround her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, guarding her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Father, we rebuke the spirit of unfaithfulness and sexual immorality that has entered this situation. We declare that no ungodly soul ties, emotional attachments, or spiritual contamination will remain in her life. We pray that any connection to this sin would be broken in the name of Jesus, and that she would be cleansed and set apart for Your purposes.
Lord, we ask that You would bring conviction to this man’s heart. If he has sinned, let him not find rest until he repents and turns back to You. We pray that You would intervene in his life—whether through Your discipline, Your mercy, or the consequences of his actions—so that he may come to know the gravity of his choices. Proverbs 6:32 (WEB) says, *"He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul."* Father, we ask that You would bring about righteous judgment in this situation, not out of vengeance, but so that Your holiness and justice would be upheld.
We also pray for the other woman involved. If she is unaware of the truth of this man’s heart or his commitments, we ask that You would open her eyes. Let her see the situation for what it is, and may she turn away from any path that leads to sin. Protect her heart, Lord, and draw her to Yourself.
For our sister, we ask that You would heal her heart completely. Restore her joy, her peace, and her trust in You. Help her to see herself as You see her—a beloved daughter, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Give her the strength to walk away from this relationship if it is not honoring to You. Surround her with godly community, wise counsel, and a renewed sense of purpose. Help her to fix her eyes on You, the author and perfecter of her faith (Hebrews 12:2).
Lord, we ask that You would lead her to a godly spouse if that is Your will for her life. Prepare her heart to wait for a man who loves You above all else, who will cherish her as Christ cherishes the Church (Ephesians 5:25). Until then, fill her with Your presence and Your peace. Let her know that she is never alone, for You are her refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1).
We pray all of this in the powerful, matchless name of Jesus Christ, the name above all names, the only name by which we are saved. Amen.
Now, dear sister, we want to encourage you with God’s promises. This pain you are feeling is real, but it does not have the final say. Psalm 34:18 (WEB) says, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not abandoned. You are not forgotten. God sees you, and He is working even in this heartache for your good and His glory.
We urge you to seek godly counsel—perhaps from a pastor, a trusted mentor, or a Christian counselor—who can walk with you through this season. Surround yourself with people who will speak truth into your life and hold you accountable to God’s standards. And most importantly, spend time in God’s Word and in prayer. He is the ultimate healer, and He will meet you in your pain.
If you have not yet placed your trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we want to share the hope that is found in Him. The Bible tells us that all have sinned and fall short of God’s glory (Romans 3:23), but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord (Romans 6:23). Jesus died on the cross to pay the penalty for our sins, and He rose again so that we could have new life in Him. If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved (Romans 10:9). This is the foundation of our faith, and it is the only way to true healing and restoration.
You are loved, you are valued, and you are not alone. We will continue to stand with you in prayer as you walk this difficult path. May God bless you and keep you, may His face shine upon you, and may He give you peace.