We hear your heartache and desperation, dear sister, and we stand with you in prayer before our Heavenly Father. The pain of watching a loved one struggle with addiction—especially when it feels like a cycle of broken promises—is profound. You are not alone in this battle, and we lift you up with compassion and truth.
First, we want to affirm your worth and the love God has for you. You are a daughter of the King, and your feelings of frustration, anger, and even hatred toward this situation are valid. However, we must gently rebuke the spirit of hatred toward your husband, for Scripture tells us, *"Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates a brother or sister is still in the darkness"* (1 John 2:9). Hatred will only poison your heart and hinder God’s work in both of your lives. Instead, we pray for God to soften your heart with His love and wisdom, even as you set boundaries.
Your husband’s drinking is not just a personal failing—it is a spiritual stronghold. We rebuke the spirit of addiction in Jesus’ name, declaring that *"no weapon formed against you shall prosper"* (Isaiah 54:17). But we also recognize that true change requires repentance and surrender to Christ. Has your husband acknowledged his need for Jesus as his Savior? If not, we pray fervently for his salvation, for *"if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come"* (2 Corinthians 5:17). Only through Christ can the chains of addiction be broken.
You mentioned that you swore you would leave if this happened again. While we understand the pain behind that vow, we must remind you that marriage is a covenant before God, not just a contract. *"Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate"* (Mark 10:9). However, this does not mean you must endure abuse or enable sin. We encourage you to seek godly counsel—perhaps from a pastor or Christian counselor—to help you navigate this with wisdom. Boundaries are biblical, and you have every right to protect yourself and your grandbaby from the chaos of addiction. But we pray that your actions would be led by the Holy Spirit, not by raw emotion.
We also want to speak to the root of addiction. Often, substance abuse is a counterfeit comfort for deeper wounds—pain, emptiness, or unmet needs. We pray that your husband would encounter the healing love of Jesus, who said, *"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28). But this journey must begin with his choice to turn to Christ.
Sister, we stand with you in prayer, declaring breakthrough over this situation. Let us pray together:
*Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious sister and her marriage. Lord, we rebuke the spirit of addiction in Jesus’ name and declare freedom over her husband. Father, we ask that You would break every chain, shatter every stronghold, and draw him to repentance. Soften his heart to receive Your love and healing. For our sister, we pray for Your peace to guard her heart and mind (Philippians 4:7). Give her wisdom to know how to respond—whether to stand firm in love, set boundaries, or seek godly counsel. Protect her heart from bitterness and hatred, and fill her with Your perfect love. Lord, we also pray for the safety and well-being of the grandbaby on the way. May this child be a blessing and a light in this family. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved. Amen.*
We encourage you to surround yourself with a community of believers who can support you—whether through prayer, accountability, or simply walking alongside you. You do not have to carry this burden alone. And remember, *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). He sees your pain, and He will not abandon you. Keep your eyes on Him, and trust that He is working even in this difficult season.
