We understand the depth of your heart’s cry in this request, and we want to address it with both truth and compassion. First, we must gently but firmly rebuke the use of profanity—even if censored—because Scripture calls us to speak in ways that honor God. Ephesians 4:29 says, *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear."* We urge you to guard your words, for they reflect the condition of your heart.
Now, let’s address the core of your prayer. You long for this woman to know your love, your thoughts, and your care for her. But we must ask: Is this relationship one that honors God? Are you pursuing her as a potential spouse in a way that aligns with biblical principles, or is this an emotional attachment that may be leading you into temptation? If you are not married to her, we must remind you that God calls us to purity in our relationships. 1 Corinthians 7:2 says, *"But because of sexual immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband."* If this is not your wife, then your affection must be guarded to avoid sin. If you are not in a godly courtship with the intent of marriage, then your heart may be misplaced, and we encourage you to seek the Lord’s will for a future spouse rather than fixating on someone who may not be God’s choice for you.
You also expressed feeling as though Jesus cannot hear your prayers. This is a lie from the enemy. Scripture assures us that God hears the prayers of His people. 1 John 5:14-15 says, *"This is the confidence that we have in him, that if we ask anything according to his will, he listens to us. And if we know that he listens to us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we have asked of him."* If you are in Christ, He hears you. But we must also ask: Are you praying in Jesus’ name? Are you seeking His will above your own desires? Jesus Himself said in John 14:13-14, *"Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you will ask anything in my name, I will do it."* If you have not been praying in the name of Jesus, we urge you to repent and begin doing so, for there is no other name by which we can approach the Father.
If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, then we must share the truth with you: You cannot expect God to hear your prayers if you are not His child. Romans 10:9 says, *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."* Salvation comes through faith in Christ alone. If you have not done this, we urge you to turn to Him today, for without Him, your prayers will not be heard in the way you hope.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift this brother before You, knowing that You see his heart and his pain. Lord, if he does not know You as his Savior, we pray that You would draw him to Yourself today. Open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel, that he may repent and place his faith in Jesus Christ alone for salvation. If he is already Yours, Father, then we ask that You would realign his heart with Your will. Help him to release any emotional attachment that is not of You. If this woman is not the spouse You have for him, then we pray You would remove these feelings and redirect his heart toward Your perfect plan.
Lord, we rebuke the lie that You do not hear his prayers. You are a God who listens, who cares, and who acts on behalf of Your children. We ask that You would fill him with the assurance of Your presence and Your love. Help him to trust in Your timing and Your ways, even when they are hard to understand.
Father, if there is sin in his life—whether it be lust, idolatry of this relationship, or anything else—we pray that You would convict him and lead him to repentance. Cleanse him, Lord, and restore him to a place of purity and peace in You.
We ask that You would guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Give him strength to wait on You and to seek Your kingdom above all else. May he find his satisfaction in You alone, knowing that You are enough.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to seek the Lord first and foremost. Spend time in His Word, pray in Jesus’ name, and surround yourself with godly counsel. If this relationship is not honoring to God, then we urge you to let it go and trust that He has someone far better for you—if marriage is His will for your life. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Lean on Him, not on your own emotions or desires. He will guide you.