We join you in lifting up your heart to the Father, and we are grateful that you have sought Him in prayer, for He is faithful to hear us when we call upon the name of Jesus. Your gratitude for the Trinity—the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit—is a beautiful acknowledgment of His presence in your life and the lives of your loved ones. We echo your prayers for the peace of Jerusalem and for America, for our God is a God of order, justice, and mercy, and He calls us to intercede for our nations and leaders.
We hear the deep concern in your heart for Lance, and we lift him up before the Lord, asking that God would keep him safe, provide for his needs, and grant him the means to reach out to you. It is clear that you care for him deeply, and we pray that the Lord would guide both of your hearts in wisdom and purity. However, we must gently but firmly address something that weighs heavily on our spirits as we read your request. You have shared that you are married to Carl, yet you have also expressed romantic feelings for Lance and have asked for prayer regarding a "relationship" with him. This is not in alignment with God’s design for marriage and relationships.
The Scriptures are clear that marriage is a covenant before God, a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman. Jesus Himself said, *"Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall be joined to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh’? So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart."* (Matthew 19:4-6, WEB). The Lord takes this covenant seriously, and we are called to honor it as well. To seek emotional or romantic connection with someone outside of your marriage is to step into dangerous territory that can lead to sin, broken trust, and deep pain.
Additionally, you have mentioned abuse in your marriage to Carl. We grieve with you over the suffering you have endured—no one should ever experience physical, mental, or verbal abuse. The Lord sees your pain, and He is a God of justice and comfort. While we pray for your protection and deliverance, we also urge you to seek godly counsel and support from your church or a trusted Christian leader. The Bible does not require anyone to remain in a situation where they are in danger. *"Rescue the weak and needy. Deliver them out of the hand of the wicked."* (Psalm 82:4, WEB). Separation may be necessary for your safety, but we encourage you to pursue this in a way that honors God and seeks His will for reconciliation or restoration, if possible. Divorce is a serious matter, and while Scripture acknowledges that it may occur in cases of unfaithfulness or abandonment (Matthew 19:9, 1 Corinthians 7:15), it is not to be entered into lightly. We pray that the Lord would give you wisdom, discernment, and protection as you navigate this difficult season.
As for Lance, we pray that if it is God’s will, he would reach out to you soon so that you may have peace of mind knowing he is safe. However, we must also pray that the Lord would guard your heart and his from any connection that would dishonor the marriage covenant. If Lance is not your husband, then pursuing a romantic relationship with him would be adultery in God’s eyes, and we cannot pray for something that contradicts His Word. Instead, we pray that the Lord would redirect your affections and desires toward what is pure and holy. *"Set your mind on the things that are above, not on the things that are on the earth."* (Colossians 3:2, WEB). We encourage you to seek the Lord’s healing for your heart, asking Him to fill the loneliness or emptiness you may feel with His perfect love. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). This does not mean God will give you what *you* desire, but that as you delight in Him, He will align your desires with His will.
We also rejoice that you have acknowledged the name of Jesus in your prayer, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"*(John 14:6, WEB). There is power in the name of Jesus, and we are grateful you have invoked it. We will continue to pray that your faith in Him grows stronger each day, and that you would find your identity and fulfillment in Christ alone.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who has poured out her heart before You. Lord, we thank You for Your faithfulness and for the love You have shown her through Your Son. We ask that You would wrap her in Your peace and comfort, reminding her that she is seen, known, and deeply loved by You.
Father, we pray for Lance, that You would keep him safe and provide for his needs. If it is Your will, Lord, allow him to reach out to her soon so that she may be at peace knowing he is well. But Lord, we also ask that You would guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. If there is any connection between them that is not honoring to You or to the covenant of marriage, we pray that You would sever it. Redirect their steps, Lord, and help them to seek You first in all things.
Father, we grieve over the abuse our sister has endured in her marriage. Lord, You are a God of justice, and we ask that You would intervene on her behalf. Provide her with wisdom, protection, and godly counsel as she navigates this painful situation. If separation is necessary for her safety, Lord, make a way. If reconciliation is possible, we pray that You would soften Carl’s heart and bring repentance and healing to their marriage. But above all, Lord, we ask that Your will be done in this situation, and that You would be glorified.
We pray that You would heal her heart from the wounds of abuse and from any emotional attachments that are not pleasing to You. Fill her with Your love, Lord, and help her to find her worth and identity in You alone. Remove any bitterness, resentment, or unforgiveness, and replace it with Your peace and joy.
Father, we ask that You would surround her with a community of believers who can support her, encourage her, and hold her accountable in love. Give her the strength to walk in obedience to Your Word, even when it is difficult.
Finally, Lord, we pray that You would draw her closer to Yourself. Help her to delight in You above all else, and to trust You with every detail of her life. We ask all of this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily, allowing Him to speak truth and life into your heart. Seek out a Bible-believing church where you can find support and discipleship. If you are not already in a place of surrender to Christ, we urge you to repent of any sin and invite Him to be Lord of your life. He is faithful to forgive and to restore. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."* (1 John 1:9, WEB).
You are not alone in this. We are standing with you in prayer, believing that God will move mightily in your life as you seek Him with all your heart. *"You will seek me, and find me, when you search for me with all your heart."* (Jeremiah 29:13, WEB). Stay strong in the Lord, and trust in His perfect timing and plan for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
