We understand your heart’s cry for this man, and we want to lift you up in truth and love as we seek God’s will together. First, we must gently but firmly address a few things in your request that need biblical clarity. You mention praying for the restoration of a relationship with a man you love, but we notice you did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ in your prayer. This is not just a formality—it is essential. Scripture tells us in John 14:6, *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me,'"* and in Acts 4:12, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* Without calling on the name of Jesus, our prayers have no power, no access to the Father, and no authority. We must always approach God through Christ alone, for He is our Mediator (1 Timothy 2:5).
Additionally, we must ask: Is this man a believer in Jesus Christ? Are *you* walking closely with the Lord? Scripture is clear that believers are not to be "unequally yoked" with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this man does not share your faith in Christ, pursuing a relationship with him would be outside of God’s will, no matter how deeply you care for him. A relationship built on anything other than Christ as the foundation will ultimately lead to heartache, compromise, and spiritual danger. We urge you to examine this carefully, for your obedience to God must come before your desires for this man.
We also notice you describe this as a "relationship," but from your words, it seems you are not married. If this is the case, we must remind you that biblical relationships between a man and a woman are to be pursued with the *sole intent of marriage*—not for emotional fulfillment, companionship, or physical intimacy outside of marriage. Any romantic or physical involvement before marriage is fornication, which is sin (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Galatians 5:19-21). If there has been sexual immorality in this relationship, we urge you to repent and turn away from it, for it grieves the Holy Spirit and brings bondage rather than the freedom Christ died to give you.
Now, let us address the deeper issue: your heart’s longing for this man. We hear your pain, and we know how deeply it hurts to feel ignored or rejected by someone you love. But we must ask you to consider this: *Is your desire for this man aligning with God’s will, or is it rooted in your own longings?* Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* If this man is ignoring you, it may be God’s protection over you—either because this relationship is not His will, or because He is calling *you* to draw nearer to *Him* first. Sometimes God removes distractions so we will seek Him above all else.
We also caution you against praying for God to "change his heart" toward you. While it is good to pray for someone’s salvation or spiritual growth, praying for God to manipulate a person’s emotions or actions to fit *your* desires is dangerous. God does not force people to love or choose us—that is not love, but control. Instead, we must surrender this man *and* our own hearts to the Lord, trusting that His plan is perfect, even if it doesn’t match our own. Psalm 37:4-5 says, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."*
Lastly, we must challenge you with this: *Are you seeking a husband, or are you seeking comfort?* If you are a believer, your ultimate hope should not be in a man, but in Christ alone. A godly marriage is a beautiful gift, but it is not the source of your worth, joy, or completion—only Jesus is. If you are not yet married, your focus should be on serving the Lord wholeheartedly, growing in faith, and preparing yourself to be a godly wife *if* that is His will for you. Singleness is not a curse—it is an opportunity to devote yourself fully to the Lord without distraction (1 Corinthians 7:32-35).
Now, let us pray for you in truth and love:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister before You, knowing that You see her heart and the pain she carries. Lord, we ask that You would draw her closer to *You*—that she would find her comfort, worth, and hope in Christ alone. If this man is not Your will for her, we pray You would give her the strength to release him completely, trusting in Your perfect plan. Break any ungodly soul ties or emotional dependencies that are not of You, and set her free from any idolatry that has placed this man above You in her heart.
If this relationship has involved sin, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Convict her where she needs to repent, and grant her the courage to walk in purity and obedience, no matter the cost. Remind her that Your ways are higher than hers, and that Your love for her is far greater than any human love could ever be.
Father, if it is Your will for this man to return—and *only* if it aligns with Your Word—then we pray You would work in his heart. But more than that, we pray You would give our sister the peace to surrender this entirely to You. Help her to delight herself in You, so that the desires of her heart may align with Your perfect will. Guard her from bitterness, desperation, or fear, and fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in faith and not in the flesh.
We rebuke any spirit of rejection, loneliness, or despair trying to take hold of her, and we declare that her identity is in Christ alone. Remind her that she is *Your* beloved daughter, and that no man’s approval or affection can compare to the love You have for her.
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Our sister, we urge you to seek the Lord first in this. Fast and pray, asking God to reveal His will—not just for this relationship, but for *your* heart. Read His Word daily, and surround yourself with godly counsel. If this man is ignoring you, do not chase after him. Instead, chase after God. If this relationship is meant to be, the Lord will make it clear—but if it is not, He will give you the grace to let go.
Remember: *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). He sees you, He loves you, and He will never leave you. Trust Him, even when it hurts.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
