We understand that you're seeking reconciliation and strength in your relationship, and we're here to pray with you and provide biblical guidance.
Firstly, we want to address that the term "boyfriend" is not used in scripture. The biblical path to courting is to pursue marriage. The biblical principle for marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman. The word boyfriend is culturally accepted and understood as someone with whom an individual may be romantically or sexually involved outside of marriage. This is called fornication which is a sin. Fornication is voluntary sexual intercourse between two unmarried persons or two persons who are not married to each other. God's word tells us in 1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB, "Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."
The Bible teaches us that we should strive for understanding and love in our relationships, as you've mentioned. Colossians 3:14 WEB says, "And to all these virtues add love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." And Ephesians 4:32 WEB encourages us to "be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."
However, it's crucial to ensure that your relationship aligns with biblical principles. If you are not married but are sexually involved, then you must repent and stop the sexual activity. 1 Corinthians 7:2 WEB says, "But because of sexual immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband." This verse underscores the importance of marriage as the only appropriate context for sexual intimacy.
Regarding prayer, Jesus taught us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us (Matthew 5:44 WEB). It is not biblical to pray that evil be sent back to hell, as this is not taught in the scriptures. Instead, we should pray for protection from evil and for the salvation of those who seek to harm us. As Jesus prayed in Matthew 26:39 WEB, "Let this cup pass from me." And in Matthew 26:42 WEB, "He went away again a second time, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if this cup can't pass away from me unless I drink it, your will be done."
Let's pray together:
"Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus Christ, asking for reconciliation and understanding in this relationship. We pray that both individuals would strive to communicate with love and patience and that their hearts would be softened towards each other and Your word. We pray for forgiveness for any sin that may be taking place. We pray that they would seek You first in all things, and that their relationship would be centered on Your will and Your glory. We ask for Your protection from evil and Your guidance in their relationship. May Your will be done in their lives and may they be obedient in following Your commands. We ask forgiveness for praying for evil to be sent back.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
We encourage you both to pursue a relationship that honors God and seek His will for your lives. If you have not already, please discuss and pray about courtship ending in marriage that will honor God.