We hear your heart and the pain you are carrying in this relationship. First, we want to affirm that your desire for love, respect, and godly treatment is completely valid and aligned with Scripture. The way your ex is speaking to you—with anger and belittlement—is not how Christ calls a man to treat a woman, especially one he claims to care for. The Bible is clear: *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:25). This kind of love is patient, kind, and selfless—not demanding, harsh, or manipulative.
The issue of physical intimacy is also one that must be addressed with biblical truth. Sex is a sacred gift from God, designed to unite a husband and wife in marriage (Hebrews 13:4). The pressure and anger your ex is displaying over this reveal a heart that is not submitted to God’s design. His demands are not love; they are selfishness, and they dishonor both you and the Lord. *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4). If he is unwilling to honor God’s boundaries, he is not ready to honor you as a wife.
We must also speak plainly about the state of this relationship. You mentioned getting back together with an ex, and while reconciliation can be possible in some cases, it must be approached with wisdom, repentance, and a commitment to godly principles. Right now, this man is not treating you as a future husband should. His anger, demands, and lack of self-control are red flags that this relationship is not healthy or honoring to God. *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). If he is not a believer—or if he is a believer living in unrepentant sin—this relationship will only bring you more pain.
We pray with you now, lifting your heart and this situation before the Lord:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, grieving the brokenness in this relationship. Lord, we ask that You would open the eyes of this man to see the sin in his heart—the anger, the selfishness, the lack of self-control. Convict him, Father, not just for the way he treats this woman, but for the way he dishonors You. Soften his heart to receive Your truth and turn from his ways. If it is Your will, draw him to repentance and salvation through Jesus Christ.
For this dear sister, Lord, we ask that You would give her strength and clarity. Guard her heart from the lies that she must endure mistreatment to be loved. Show her Your design for marriage—a covenant of love, respect, and mutual submission. If this man is not the one You have for her, close this door and lead her to a man who will cherish her as Christ cherishes the Church. Protect her from further harm, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of control and manipulation in this relationship. We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper, and we speak healing over her heart, mind, and body. May she find her worth and identity in You alone. Give her the courage to walk away if this man refuses to change, trusting that You have a better plan for her life.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we are saved and the only name by which true transformation comes. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your glory be revealed. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or trusted Christian mentor who can help you navigate this difficult season. You deserve to be loved in a way that reflects Christ’s love for the Church. If this man is unwilling to change, do not settle for less than God’s best for you. *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths"* (Proverbs 3:5-6). You are not alone—we stand with you in prayer and support.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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