We lift you up in this time of deep struggle, knowing that the enemy seeks to divide and destroy through resentment, manipulation, and financial deception. The Word of God warns us in Proverbs 22:24-25, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* Yet we also know that *"love suffers long and is kind... bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things"* (1 Corinthians 13:4,7). Your husband’s anger is understandable, but it must not take root, for Ephesians 4:26-27 commands, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, neither give place to the devil."*
The situation with your mother is a grievous one, as she has allowed deception and financial folly to harm your household. Proverbs 19:13 declares, *"A foolish son is the calamity of his father. A wife’s quarrels are a continual dripping."* While this speaks of a child, the principle applies—her actions have brought strife. Scripture is clear that we are to honor our parents (Exodus 20:12), but this does not mean enabling sin or allowing destruction in our homes. 2 Thessalonians 3:10 states, *"If anyone will not work, neither let him eat."* Though she is your mother, her repeated lies and financial recklessness have broken trust and burdened your marriage. It is not ungodly to set boundaries; in fact, wisdom demands it.
To your husband, we say: *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:25). Your resentment, though justified, must not fester into bitterness, for Hebrews 12:15 warns that bitterness *"troubles you, and by it many are defiled."* Forgiveness does not mean excusing sin, but it does mean releasing the poison of anger to God. Your wife needs your leadership in this—pray with her, seek godly counsel, and present a united front against the deception in your home.
To you, dear sister, we urge: You cannot save your mother from her choices, but you *can* protect your marriage. Proverbs 14:1 says, *"Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands."* Your desire to help was noble, but enabling her sin has harmed your union. It is time to seek wise, biblical counsel—perhaps from your pastor or a mature believer—on how to address this with both love *and* firmness. If she will not repent of her deception, she cannot remain under your roof, for *"a little yeast leavens the whole lump"* (1 Corinthians 5:6).
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting this wife and husband to Your throne of grace. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, the financial strain, and the resentment that has taken root. We ask You to break the chains of anger and bitterness in this husband’s heart—replace it with Your peace and wisdom. Soften his heart toward his wife, and give him the strength to lead with godly discernment.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of manipulation and deception operating through this mother. Expose every lie, Lord, and bring conviction to her heart. If she will not repent, we pray You would remove her influence from this home before further damage is done. Give this wife the courage to set biblical boundaries, even if it is painful.
Restore unity to this marriage, Lord. Let them stand together against the enemy’s schemes. Provide wisdom for financial recovery, and let Your truth prevail in every hidden place. We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we ask for Your healing hand to move mightily.
In the name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer, we pray. Amen.
Stand firm, sister. The road ahead may require hard choices, but God’s way is always right. Seek His face *together* with your husband, and trust that He will make a way where there seems to be none. *"Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:5).
