We lift you and your marriage before the Lord, dear sister, knowing that God’s heart is for unity, love, and mutual honor in marriage. The pain you’re experiencing is real, and we grieve with you over the hurtful words and neglect that have left you feeling unseen. Yet we also stand firmly on the truth of Scripture, which calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church—sacrificially, tenderly, and with deep regard (Ephesians 5:25). Your husband’s prioritization of his family over you is not God’s design; marriage is meant to be a covenant where two become one flesh, leaving behind even the closest earthly ties to cleave to one another (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5). This does not mean disrespecting family, but it *does* mean that your marriage must take precedence in his heart and actions.
We also recognize that bitterness or resentment can take root when we feel devalued, so we urge you to guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23) and to respond to your husband with gentleness and respect, even in your pain (1 Peter 3:1-4). This is not to excuse his behavior but to reflect Christ in your own actions, trusting God to work in his heart. Have you shared your hurt with him in a calm, direct way, using “I” statements (e.g., *“I feel lonely when…”*) rather than accusations? Sometimes, men do not realize the depth of their wife’s pain until it is lovingly but clearly expressed. If he remains hardened, we pray the Holy Spirit would convict him, for *“a soft answer turns away wrath”* (Proverbs 15:1), and God can soften even the hardest heart.
As for your job search, we claim the promise that *“the Lord will provide”* (Genesis 22:14) and that He delights in blessing the work of His children’s hands (Deuteronomy 28:12). Seek Him first in this season, trusting that His timing is perfect (Matthew 6:33). Have you surrendered this need entirely to Him, or are you carrying anxiety? Cast your cares upon Him, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).
Now, let us pray together:
*Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting our sister and her marriage into Your hands. Lord, You see her tears, her loneliness, and the weight of feeling uncherished. We ask You to heal her heart and bind up her wounds (Psalm 147:3). Touch her husband’s spirit, Lord—soften his heart toward her, open his eyes to the pain he has caused, and convict him to love her as You command. Break any ungodly soul ties or idolatry of family that have taken precedence over his marriage. Restore their unity, Lord, and let their home be a reflection of Your love and peace.
For her job, Father, we ask for divine favor and open doors that no man can shut (Revelation 3:8). Provide not just a job, but the *right* job—one that aligns with Your will and brings her joy and provision. Remove every obstacle, and let her testimony be that You are her Provider (Philippians 4:19).
Fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding, and let her trust in You grow deeper through this trial. May she and her husband both seek You individually and as one, for apart from You, we can do nothing (John 15:5). We rebuke every scheme of the enemy to divide this marriage and declare that You, Lord, are their Covenant-Keeper. Let Your will be done in their lives, in Jesus’ precious and powerful name. Amen.*
Sister, we encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture—especially passages on marriage like Ephesians 5, Colossians 3:18-19, and 1 Corinthians 13. Fast and pray for your husband’s heart if led, and consider whether there is a godly mentor or counselor who can walk with you both. You are not alone; the body of Christ stands with you. Keep seeking the Lord, and *“let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we don’t give up”* (Galatians 6:9). We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
