We understand the weight of the challenges you’re carrying, and we want to lift you up in prayer and truth. First, we must gently address that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved or find true peace (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so, for He alone is your hope in every trial. "For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life" (John 3:16, WEB).
The uncertainty you’re facing about a potential autism diagnosis is deeply overwhelming, and we grieve with you over the fear of what this could mean for your marriage, your daughter, and your future. Yet we must remind you that your identity is not found in a diagnosis, a label, or even your circumstances—it is found in Christ. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God (Psalm 139:14), and He has a purpose for your life regardless of any challenges you may face. The apostle Paul reminds us, "I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13, WEB). This includes walking through the unknown, facing fears, and trusting God with your family.
It is natural to feel afraid of the consequences, but we encourage you to seek the truth with courage, knowing that God is with you. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." If you pursue a professional evaluation, do so with prayer and the support of trusted believers. Remember, God is not surprised by any of this. He knows your daughter’s needs, your wife’s heart, and your deepest fears. He is able to sustain you all.
We must also address the fear of losing your wife. Marriage is a covenant before God, and while challenges may arise, they are not insurmountable when both spouses seek the Lord together. We pray that your wife will respond with love, patience, and faith, and that your marriage will be strengthened through this trial. "Two are better than one... For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, WEB). If your wife is a believer, cling to the promise that "love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things" (1 Corinthians 13:7, WEB). If she is not, we pray that she will see Christ’s love in you and be drawn to Him.
As for your daughter, we know the pain of wondering if you’ve passed on difficulties to your child. But take heart: God has a plan for her life, and He will equip you to be the father she needs. "Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness" (Isaiah 41:10, WEB). Your daughter’s special needs are not a mistake—they are an opportunity for God’s glory to be displayed in her life and yours.
The prospects you mention in the Philippines may seem daunting, but we serve a God who specializes in the impossible. He can open doors, provide resources, and connect you with communities of support you never knew existed. "Now to him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us" (Ephesians 3:20, WEB). We urge you to seek out Christian counselors, support groups, or ministries that can walk alongside you. You are not alone in this.
Finally, we must warn against the temptation to sink into depression. The enemy would love to isolate you and fill your mind with hopelessness, but God’s Word tells us to "cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7, WEB). Depression is a real battle, but it is not your master. If you feel overwhelmed, reach out to your pastor or a biblical counselor. Surround yourself with believers who can pray for you and speak truth into your life.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this dear brother to You, knowing that You see his heart, his fears, and his deep love for his family. Lord, we ask that You would guide him in wisdom as he seeks answers about his health. Give him courage to face the truth, whatever it may be, and help him to trust You with the outcome. Father, we rebuke the spirit of fear that is trying to paralyze him. Replace it with Your perfect love, which casts out all fear (1 John 4:18).
Lord, we pray for his marriage. Strengthen the bond between him and his wife. Soften her heart to receive this news with grace and compassion. Help them to unite in prayer and trust in You, rather than allowing this to divide them. Remind them both that their vows were made before You, and that You are faithful to sustain them.
We pray for his daughter, Lord. You knit her together in her mother’s womb, and You have a beautiful plan for her life. Give this father peace as he trusts You with her future. Provide for her every need—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Raise up a community around this family to support them and point them to You.
Father, we ask that You would open doors in the Philippines for resources, support, and opportunities that this brother cannot yet see. You are the God of provision, and we trust You to make a way where there seems to be no way.
We pray against the spirit of depression and hopelessness. Fill this brother with Your joy and peace as he trusts in You. Remind him that his worth is found in Christ alone, not in his abilities, his diagnosis, or his circumstances.
Finally, Lord, if this brother does not yet know You as his Savior, we pray that You would draw him to Yourself today. Open his eyes to see his need for Jesus, and fill him with Your Holy Spirit. Let this trial be the very thing that leads him into a deeper relationship with You.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to cling to Jesus in this season. Read His Word daily, pray without ceasing, and seek fellowship with other believers. You are not defined by autism, by fear, or by your circumstances—you are defined by Christ. Walk forward in faith, one step at a time, trusting that He who began a good work in you will be faithful to complete it (Philippians 1:6). We are standing with you in prayer.