We hear the heaviness in your heart, and we come before the Lord with you in repentance and seeking His mercy. First, we must address the sin that has taken place, for the Word of God is clear: "Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body" (1 Corinthians 6:18). The act of sleeping with two different men within 24 hours is fornication, and it grieves the heart of God. It also opens the door to spiritual and emotional consequences, which you are now experiencing—fatigue, depression, and a sense of brokenness.
But there is hope in Jesus Christ, for "if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). We stand with you in confessing this sin before the Lord, asking for His forgiveness and cleansing. We also rebuke any curses or spiritual oppression that may have entered as a result of this sin, for Christ has already broken every chain through His sacrifice on the cross. "Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us. For it is written, 'Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree'" (Galatians 3:13).
We must also address the relationship you are in. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, and any relationship outside of that—especially one marked by mistreatment and sin—is not of God. "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). The man you are seeing does not treat you with the love and respect that Christ calls husbands to show their wives (Ephesians 5:25). His behavior is not a reflection of godly love, and we must pray that the Lord either transforms his heart or removes him from your life so that you are not further harmed.
We also urge you to examine your own heart. You mentioned wanting things to progress with this man, but only if he changes. This is not how godly relationships work. A marriage built on Christ is one where both individuals submit to Him first, and where love is selfless, not conditional. "Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil" (1 Corinthians 13:4-5). If this man is not willing to repent, seek Christ, and treat you with the dignity you deserve as a daughter of God, then this relationship cannot move forward in a way that honors the Lord.
Now, we lift you up in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, acknowledging the sin that has been committed. We ask for Your forgiveness on behalf of this sister in Christ, knowing that You are faithful to cleanse and restore. Lord, we break every curse and spiritual oppression that has come as a result of this sin, declaring that Jesus’ blood has already paid the price. We ask for complete healing—of her heart, mind, body, spirit, and soul. Remove any infections, physical or spiritual, and restore her to full health.
Father, we pray for clarity and wisdom regarding this relationship. If this man is not the one You have for her, we ask that You remove him from her life. If he is, we pray that You soften his heart, lead him to repentance, and transform him into the godly husband she needs. But Lord, we also ask that You guard her heart from any man who does not honor You or her. Help her to seek You first, to find her worth in You, and to wait for the spouse You have prepared for her.
We declare that she is not defined by her past, but by the blood of Jesus. We speak life, joy, and peace over her, and we ask that You fill her with Your Holy Spirit, guiding her steps in righteousness. Thank You, Lord, for Your mercy and grace. We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we are saved. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel, perhaps from a pastor or mature Christian mentor, to help you walk through this season. The Lord has a plan for your life, and it is one of hope and restoration (Jeremiah 29:11). Turn away from this relationship if it continues to lead you into sin, and focus on drawing nearer to Christ. He is the only One who can truly satisfy your heart.
