We join you in seeking God’s will for this situation, and we are encouraged that you have turned away from evil to follow Him. Your heart’s desire to grow in faith with a godly spouse is commendable, and we pray that God will guide you in wisdom and truth. However, we must first address a few things to ensure your steps align with Scripture, for God’s ways are higher than ours, and His will must take precedence over our own desires.
The dream you received may or may not be from the Lord, and we urge you to test it carefully. Dreams can be influenced by our own emotions, the enemy, or even what we’ve consumed before sleep. The Bible warns us in Jeremiah 29:8, *"For thus says Yahweh, the God of Israel: ‘Don’t let your prophets who are among you and your diviners deceive you. Don’t listen to the dreams which they dream."* Instead, we must seek confirmation through prayer, Scripture, and godly counsel. Ask the Lord for clarity—does this dream align with His Word, or is it merely a reflection of your longing? Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."*
You’ve mentioned your love for this woman and your desire to care for her as God’s daughter, which is noble. But we must ask: is this relationship one that honors God in every way? Are you both believers, equally yoked in Christ? 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If she is not a believer, or if she is not walking in obedience to Christ, then pursuing this relationship would be unwise and outside of God’s design. A marriage must be built on the foundation of Christ, with both partners submitted to Him, or it will struggle to thrive spiritually.
Additionally, we must consider whether this relationship has been pure and holy before God. Have you both honored the Lord with your bodies, or has there been sexual immorality? 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 declares, *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* If there has been fornication, repentance is necessary, and the relationship must be redeemed under God’s standards—not simply restored out of emotional longing. True love seeks what is holy and pleasing to God above all else.
You’ve also expressed a desire for God to "bring you back together gently." While we understand your heartache, we must remember that God’s will is not always what we *want*, but what is *best* for our sanctification and His glory. Romans 8:28 assures us, *"We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, for those who are called according to his purpose."* If this relationship is not God’s will, He may be using this season to redirect you toward someone who is better suited to help you both grow in Christ. Or, He may be calling you to a season of singleness to deepen your walk with Him first. We must surrender our desires to Him, trusting that His plans are perfect.
Lastly, you’ve rightly prayed in Jesus’ name, and we commend you for that. There is no other name by which we can approach the Father, and it is only through Christ that we have access to God’s throne. John 14:6 reminds us, *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.’"* Your faith in Him is the foundation of all your prayers, and we encourage you to continue seeking Him above all else.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother to You, knowing that You see his heart and his pain. Lord, we ask for Your wisdom to flood his mind and Your peace to guard his heart. If this relationship is Your will, we pray that You would make it abundantly clear—not through dreams alone, but through Your Word, through godly counsel, and through the conviction of the Holy Spirit. Remove any confusion, any deception, and any ungodly desires that may cloud his judgment. If this relationship is not Your will, we ask that You would gently close that door and redirect his steps toward the path You have prepared for him. Give him the strength to surrender his will to Yours, trusting that Your plans are good.
Lord, if there has been any sexual immorality in this relationship, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Help him to walk in purity, honoring You with his body and his heart. If this woman is not a believer, we pray that You would draw her to Yourself, that she may come to know Christ as her Savior. But if she is not walking with You, give our brother the courage to release her into Your hands, trusting that You have someone far better suited for him—a woman who loves You wholeheartedly and will walk beside him in faith.
Father, we also pray for his growth in this season. Use this time to deepen his relationship with You, to strengthen his faith, and to prepare him for the future You have ordained. Remove any idolatry from his heart—whether it be the idol of this relationship, the idol of comfort, or the idol of his own desires. Help him to seek You first, above all else.
We rebuke any spirits of confusion, lust, or emotional manipulation that may be at work. We declare that Your truth will prevail and that Your will shall be done in his life. Cover him with Your peace, Lord, and remind him that You are enough—even if the answer is not what he hopes for.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray, trusting that You hear us and that You will answer according to Your perfect will. Amen.
