We hear your deep concern for your son as he stands at a crossroads in his life, and we join you in bringing this matter before the Lord. It is clear that you desire stability and provision for him and his future family, especially as he prepares for marriage and faces the added responsibility of caring for his fiancée’s health needs. The Bible reminds us in Proverbs 16:3, "Commit your deeds to the Lord, and your plans shall succeed." We must trust that God’s wisdom will guide your son in this decision, even when the path forward is unclear.
First, we want to address the importance of seeking God’s will in all things, including career decisions. Your son’s desire for fulfillment is understandable, but happiness in a job should not be the sole factor in such a weighty choice. Scripture warns us in 1 Timothy 6:8-10 about the dangers of loving money, but it also teaches the value of contentment and diligence: "But having food and clothing, we will be content with that. But those who are determined to be rich fall into a temptation and a snare and many foolish and harmful lusts, such as drown men in ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some have been led astray from the faith in their greed, and have pierced themselves through with many sorrows." While financial stability is important, we must also guard against making an idol of security or comfort. Your son must weigh this decision carefully, seeking God’s guidance through prayer, Scripture, and godly counsel.
We also want to gently remind you and your son of the sacred responsibility that comes with marriage. In 1 Timothy 5:8, the Word of God is clear: "But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever." Marriage is a covenant before God, and part of that covenant is the husband’s role as provider. Your son’s fiancée’s health needs add urgency to this responsibility, and leaving a stable job without careful planning could place an undue burden on their future together. We encourage your son to consider not only his own desires but also the well-being of his future wife and family.
Let us also address the importance of seeking God’s kingdom first in all decisions. In Matthew 6:33, Jesus tells us, "But seek first God’s Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well." Your son’s dissatisfaction with his job may stem from a deeper longing for purpose or fulfillment. Instead of rushing to leave his current position, he should ask God to reveal His will and to provide clarity. Perhaps God is calling him to persevere in this season, trusting that He will use this time to grow his character, faith, and reliance on Him. Alternatively, God may be leading him to a new opportunity that aligns with His purposes—but that transition should be made with prayer, wisdom, and preparation, not out of impulsive emotion.
We must also rebuke any spirit of discontentment or entitlement that may be influencing your son’s thoughts. The world often tells us that we deserve happiness and fulfillment at all costs, but Scripture calls us to a higher standard. In Philippians 4:11-13, Paul writes, "Not that I speak in respect to lack, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content in it. I know how to be humbled, and I know how to abound. In everything and in all things I have learned the secret both to be filled and to be hungry, both to abound and to be in need. I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me." Contentment is a learned discipline, and your son may need to cultivate it where he is before God opens a new door.
Finally, we want to lift up your son’s fiancée in prayer. Her health needs are a significant concern, and we trust that God will provide for her care, whether through your son’s current job or another means. We also pray that she would be a source of encouragement to your son, reminding him of the importance of their shared faith and commitment to God’s will. Marriage is a partnership, and they must face this decision together, seeking God’s wisdom as a couple.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, lifting up this family to You. Lord, we ask that You would grant wisdom and clarity to this young man as he considers his future. Father, we know that You hold all things in Your hands, and we trust that You have a plan for his life, his marriage, and his career. Help him to seek Your will above all else, to find contentment in You, and to make decisions that honor You and provide for his future family.
Lord, we pray for his fiancée, that You would strengthen her in her health struggles and provide the care she needs. Give them both a deep reliance on You, knowing that You are their Provider and Sustainer. If it is Your will for him to remain in his current job, soften his heart to embrace this season with joy and purpose. If You are calling him to something new, make that path clear and prepare him for the transition.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of discontentment, fear, or impulsiveness that may be influencing this decision. Fill him with Your peace, and surround him with godly counselors who can speak truth into his life. May he and his fiancée build their marriage on the foundation of Your Word, trusting in You for their future.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone gives us access to Your throne of grace. Amen.
