We hear the pain and confusion in your heart, and we stand with you before the Lord, seeking His perfect will in this situation. The instability and emotional turmoil you’re experiencing are deeply concerning, especially when children are involved. The Bible warns us about the dangers of being unequally yoked and the heartache that comes from relationships built on shifting sands rather than the solid foundation of Christ.
First, we must address the reality of your situation with truth and love. If you and your husband are not married, we must rebuke any sin of fornication that may have occurred, as Scripture is clear: *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4). If you are married, his hot-and-cold behavior is not a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church, which is steadfast, sacrificial, and unchanging (Ephesians 5:25). A husband is called to love his wife as Christ loves the Church—not with conditional affection, but with a love that lays down its life for her.
We also must ask: Is this relationship centered on Christ? Have you both surrendered your hearts fully to Him, or is this a relationship built on emotion, convenience, or worldly desires? Jesus said, *"If you love me, keep my commandments"* (John 14:15). If either of you is not walking in obedience to God’s Word, this relationship cannot thrive as He intends. We pray that if this man is not your husband, you would seek God’s will for a godly spouse who will lead you and your children in righteousness. If he *is* your husband, we pray for his repentance, transformation, and a heart that seeks to honor God in your marriage.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her children. Lord, You see the confusion, the pain, and the longing for clarity. We ask that You would move mightily in this situation, not according to our desires, but according to Your perfect will. Father, if this man is not her husband, we ask that You break any ungodly soul ties and reveal to her whether this relationship aligns with Your plan for her life. If it does not, give her the strength to walk away, trusting that You have someone far better prepared for her—a man after Your own heart who will love her as Christ loves the Church.
If this *is* her husband, Lord, we ask that You convict his heart of any sin, pride, or selfishness. Soften his heart to lead his family in righteousness, to love his wife as Christ loves the Church, and to be a father who points his children to You. Break any cycles of instability, manipulation, or emotional neglect. Restore what has been broken, but only if it is Your will. If this marriage cannot be redeemed in a way that honors You, then give her the courage to release it into Your hands, trusting that You will heal and provide.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of confusion and deception in this situation. We declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We pray for clarity—clear, unmistakable signs of Your will. If this man is not the one You have for her, close every door and remove every trace of false hope. If he is, then move in his heart to repent, change, and pursue her with the love and commitment You intended for marriage.
Lord, we ask that You would heal her heart from the pain of rejection and uncertainty. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Strengthen her to walk in faith, not by sight, and to trust that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28). Surround her and her children with godly community—believers who will speak truth, pray with her, and support her in this season.
Above all, Father, we pray that You would be glorified in this situation. Whether through restoration or release, may Your name be exalted. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we are saved and the only foundation upon which a godly marriage can be built. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to seek godly counsel from mature believers who can walk with you through this time. Do not isolate yourself. The enemy would love to keep you in confusion, but God desires to lead you into freedom and clarity. Spend time in His Word, fasting and praying for direction. Ask Him to reveal any areas of your heart that need to be surrendered to Him—whether it’s fear, idolatry of this relationship, or unforgiveness.
Remember, God’s will is not to harm you but to prosper you and give you hope (Jeremiah 29:11). Even if the answer is not what you hope for, trust that He is a good Father who knows what is best. If this man is not your husband, do not settle for less than God’s best. If he is, do not accept anything less than a marriage that reflects Christ and the Church. Stand firm on God’s promises, and do not waver in your faith. He is faithful, and He will direct your steps.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
