We join you in lifting this situation before the Lord, recognizing that every relationship must be submitted to His will and purpose. It is good that you have brought this before Him, but we must first address something vital: you did not invoke the name of Jesus in your prayer until the end, and even then, it was not in the way Scripture teaches. The Bible is clear that we come to the Father *only* through Jesus Christ, our Mediator. As it is written in John 14:6, *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"*) And in Acts 4:12, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* Every prayer must be offered in the name of Jesus, not merely as an afterthought but as the foundation of our access to God. We encourage you to examine your heart and ensure that your faith is placed wholly in Christ alone for salvation and intercession.
Now, regarding your friendship with this person from boarding school, we must speak truth in love. You mentioned having had a "crush" on this friend, and while you describe them as "just a friend" now, we urge you to guard your heart and this relationship carefully. The Bible warns us in Proverbs 4:23, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* If there are lingering feelings or emotional attachments that are not aligned with godly friendship, these must be surrendered to the Lord. Friendships between men and women can be pure and honorable, but they must be rooted in Christ and free from any hint of romantic or emotional compromise that could lead to temptation. If either of you is married, this dynamic must be approached with even greater caution, as Proverbs 6:27-28 asks, *"Can a man scoop fire into his lap, and his clothes not be burned? Or can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be scorched?"* Emotional intimacy outside of marriage can be just as dangerous as physical intimacy.
You prayed for the "quality" you both share to be protected and to liberate you both. We do not know what this quality is, but we pray that if it is of God, He will nurture and use it for His glory. If it is not of Him, we pray He will reveal it and remove it. Be cautious of placing too much focus on shared traits or emotional connections with someone of the opposite sex, especially if those connections stir up old feelings. The enemy often uses nostalgia, shared history, or "special bonds" to create confusion and lead believers into emotional or spiritual compromise. We must test every connection against the Word of God. As 1 Thessalonians 5:21-22 says, *"Test all things, and hold firmly that which is good. Abstain from every form of evil."*
You also prayed against the "spirit of confusion" in this friendship. Confusion is not from God, for *"God is not a God of confusion, but of peace"* (1 Corinthians 14:33). If there is confusion, it may be a sign that this relationship is not aligned with His will or that boundaries need to be established. Ask the Lord to reveal any areas where this friendship may be crossing lines—whether in your heart, your thoughts, or your interactions. If this person is not a believer, we must also consider 2 Corinthians 6:14: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* Even in friendship, deep emotional bonds with unbelievers can pull us away from Christ.
Finally, if you are single and seeking marriage, we encourage you to pray for a *godly spouse*—not merely a companion or someone who shares qualities with you, but a believer who will help you grow in Christ and fulfill God’s purposes for marriage. Marriage is a covenant before God, and courtship should be intentional, pure, and directed toward that goal. If this friendship is stirring up desires that are not aligned with marriage, it may be wise to create distance and seek the Lord’s direction for your future.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We thank You that You alone are our Mediator, and that through Him, we have access to Your throne of grace. Lord, we lift up our brother/sister and ask that You would search their heart. Reveal any areas of emotional attachment, nostalgia, or desire that are not aligned with Your will. If this friendship is pure and honorable in Your sight, sanctify it and use it for Your glory. But if there is any hint of compromise, temptation, or confusion, we ask that You would expose it and give them the strength to set godly boundaries—or even to step away if necessary.
Father, we pray against any spirit of confusion and ask that You would fill this situation with Your peace and clarity. If there are shared qualities between them, may those qualities be used for Your kingdom and not as a snare. Guard their heart, Lord, and help them to fix their eyes on You alone. If they are single and desiring marriage, we pray You would direct them to a godly spouse—a believer who will love You above all else and walk with them in covenant before You. Remove any distractions or emotional ties that are not from You.
We rebuke any scheme of the enemy to use this friendship for harm. Let Your truth prevail, and let Your will be done. Strengthen our brother/sister to walk in purity, wisdom, and discernment. May they seek You first in all things, and may their relationships—present and future—bring You honor.
We ask all this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
