We lift you up in this season of waiting and heartache, knowing how deeply this silence has weighed upon you. The ache of unspoken words and unresolved tensions is heavy, but we encourage you to cast your cares upon the Lord, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Your desire for reconciliation and clarity is understandable, but we must first anchor our hearts in God’s will, trusting that He is working even in this silence. You have not mentioned seeking this resolution in the name of Jesus, and we gently remind you that it is only through Christ that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). Without Him, our prayers lack the power and authority that come from aligning with God’s perfect will. If you have not yet surrendered this relationship—and your own heart—fully to Jesus, we urge you to do so now. True peace and direction come only through faith in Him (Philippians 4:6-7).
We also feel led to address something critical: you mentioned that you and your fiancé have not spoken since July, yet you remain engaged. Scripture warns us not to be "unequally yoked" with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), but even beyond that, a godly marriage requires active pursuit, communication, and mutual submission to Christ. If this man is unwilling to engage with you, to seek reconciliation, or to lead spiritually, you must prayerfully consider whether this relationship honors God. Marriage is a covenant, not a contract, and it requires two people fully committed to Christ and to one another (Ephesians 5:22-33). Proverbs 18:22 says, *"Whoso finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh."* But this favor comes when both parties are walking in obedience to Him. If your fiancé is not actively pursuing godliness, reconciliation, or even basic communication, you must ask yourself: *Is this the man God has called you to marry?* A godly husband will love you as Christ loves the church—sacrificially, patiently, and with a heart turned toward God (Ephesians 5:25). If he is not demonstrating these qualities now, it is unlikely he will after marriage.
Additionally, the fact that his family holds a negative view of you is troubling. While we pray for their hearts to soften, we also urge you to consider whether this is a relationship God is truly blessing. A man who allows his family to disrespect his future wife—or who does not stand up for her—is not demonstrating the leadership required of a husband. Genesis 2:24 tells us that a man shall *"leave his father and his mother, and shall join with his wife"*, forming a new unit under God. If he is not willing to do this now, it may be a sign that he is not ready for the covenant of marriage.
We do not say these things to discourage you, but to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). God’s will is not for you to be in a one-sided relationship where you are left in uncertainty, emotional distress, or spiritual unease. If this man is truly the one God has for you, the Lord *will* move in his heart—but you must also be willing to surrender your own desires and ask God for discernment. Sometimes, God closes doors to protect us, even when it hurts. Trust that His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11), and that He may be redirecting you toward a man who will cherish you as Christ does the church.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is walking through this valley of uncertainty and pain. Lord, You see her heart—her longing for resolution, her desire for reconciliation, and her weariness from this silence. We ask that You would be her Comfort and her Guide. Softening her fiancé’s heart is within Your power, Lord, but we pray first and foremost that *Your will* would be done in this situation. If this relationship is not of You, give her the strength to walk away, trusting that You have someone who will love her as You do. If there is hope for reconciliation, let it be built on repentance, godly communication, and a shared commitment to You.
Father, we rebuke the spirits of pride, selfishness, and division that may be at work in this situation. Break down every wall that stands between them, but only if it aligns with Your perfect will. Give our sister clarity—remove all confusion and fear, and let her hear Your voice above all else. If this engagement is not what You have ordained, give her the courage to release it, knowing that You are preparing something better. Surround her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, and remind her that her worth is found in You alone (Psalm 139:13-16).
We also lift up this man and his family. Soften their hearts, Lord, but more than that, draw them to Yourself. If they do not know You, reveal Yourself to them in a powerful way. If they are believers but harboring bitterness or misunderstanding, convict them and bring unity through Your Spirit. Let no weapon formed against our sister prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and let every tongue that rises against her be silenced in Jesus’ name.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would restore our sister’s joy and hope. Heal the wounds of rejection and uncertainty. Remind her that You are her Provider, her Protector, and her Perfect Love. If this season is one of waiting, grant her patience. If it is one of release, grant her peace. And if it is one of restoration, let it be done in a way that brings glory to Your name.
We declare all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, knowing that You hear us and that You are faithful. Amen.
Stand firm in your faith, sister. Do not let your emotions dictate your decisions—let the Word of God be your guide. Seek wise, biblical counsel from mature believers, and do not move forward in this engagement unless you have clear confirmation from the Lord. He is faithful, and He will never lead you astray. Keep your eyes on Him, and trust that He is working all things for your good (Romans 8:28).