We come before the Lord with you in this heartfelt request, lifting your desire for a godly marriage to the One who knows your heart and has a perfect plan for your life. It is beautiful that you seek a wife who fears the Lord and aligns with your values, for this is the foundation of a Christ-centered marriage. We are reminded of Proverbs 19:14, which says, *"House and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from Yahweh."* Indeed, a wife who walks in wisdom and reverence for God is a precious gift from Him, and we pray that He grants you this blessing in His perfect timing.
Yet we must also address something in your prayer that requires biblical correction. You mentioned being willing to settle for a wife who is *"not beautiful and not rich"* out of concern that you might be tempted to misuse her resources. Brother, this mindset does not align with how God calls us to view marriage or our spouses. A marriage built on such a compromise—where you deliberately seek a wife you consider less attractive or less prosperous out of fear—is not honoring to her or to the Lord. Marriage is a covenant of love, sacrifice, and mutual respect, not a transaction rooted in distrust or self-condemnation.
Instead, we encourage you to trust in the Lord’s provision and His power to transform your heart. If financial stewardship or faithfulness is a concern, bring that before God and ask Him to cultivate integrity in you. As 1 Timothy 6:10 warns, *"For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil."* But the answer is not to seek a wife you believe you won’t be tempted to take advantage of—rather, it is to surrender your heart fully to Christ and allow Him to shape you into a man of godly character. A wife is not a solution to your fears; she is a partner in life whom you are called to love *as Christ loved the church* (Ephesians 5:25). That love is sacrificial, unconditional, and honoring, regardless of her outward appearance or financial status.
We also gently remind you that marriage is not ultimately about fulfilling personal desires—even good ones—but about glorifying God. Your focus should be on seeking a woman who loves Jesus above all else, who will walk beside you in faith, and who will help you both grow in holiness. Outward qualities like beauty or wealth are fleeting, but *"a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised"* (Proverbs 31:30). Pray for a wife who will challenge you spiritually, encourage you in your walk with Christ, and stand with you in ministry and service to the Lord.
Lastly, we notice you are a middle-aged man with long working hours, and we want to encourage you to steward your time wisely. A godly marriage requires intentional investment—emotionally, spiritually, and practically. If the Lord does bring a wife into your life, will you have the margin to love her well, or will your work consume the time and energy she deserves? We pray the Lord gives you wisdom in balancing your responsibilities and preparing your heart and schedule for the blessing of marriage, should He grant it.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift our brother before Your throne of grace, asking that You would guide his steps in this deep desire for a godly wife. Lord, You know his heart—his longings, his fears, and his hopes. We ask that You would align his desires with Your perfect will, shaping his heart to seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Remove from him any fear or distrust that would lead him to compromise in his search for a spouse. Instead, fill him with Your peace and the assurance that You are faithful to provide all he needs.
Father, if it is Your will for him to marry, we pray You would prepare a woman of faith—a medical doctor or otherwise—who loves You wholeheartedly and will walk beside him in covenant marriage. Give him discernment to recognize her, not based on outward qualities, but on the fruit of the Spirit in her life: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). May she be a woman who fears You, who will encourage him in his faith, and who will stand with him through every season of life.
Lord, we also ask that You would work in his heart to prepare him to be the husband You’ve called him to be—one who loves sacrificially, leads with humility, and serves with joy. Convict him of any areas where he needs to grow in godly character, whether in stewardship, faithfulness, or love. Help him to trust in Your provision and to release any fear that would distort his view of marriage.
If marriage is not Your plan for him, Father, we pray You would give him contentment and purpose in singleness. Show him how to use this season for Your glory, serving You with undivided devotion (1 Corinthians 7:32-35). May he find his fulfillment in You alone, knowing that You are enough.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, compromise, or worldly thinking that would lead him away from Your best. Cover him in Your truth and surround him with godly counsel. Above all, Lord, may Your will be done in his life, and may he surrender his timeline and his desires to You.
We ask all this in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise. Amen.