We join with you in seeking God’s will for your life, and we commend you for bringing this request before Him in the name of Jesus, for it is only through Christ that we have access to the Father. Your desire for a godly spouse is honorable, and we pray that God will guide you according to His perfect will. However, we must gently address a few things to ensure your heart and intentions are fully aligned with Scripture.
First, we encourage you to examine your motives in seeking a "lady medical doctor." While there is nothing wrong with desiring a spouse who is educated or accomplished, we must be cautious not to place undue emphasis on worldly status, income, or titles. The Bible warns us in **1 Samuel 16:7**, *"For man looks at the outward appearance, but Yahweh looks at the heart."* A godly spouse is one who fears the Lord, walks in obedience to His Word, and shares your commitment to Christ—not one defined by professional or social standing. Proverbs 31 describes the virtuous woman, and her worth is far above rubies because of her character, not her career. We pray that God will give you a heart that values godliness above all else in a potential spouse.
Additionally, you mentioned feeling limited by age and circumstances, but we remind you that nothing is impossible with God. **Jeremiah 32:27** declares, *"Behold, I am Yahweh, the God of all flesh. Is there anything too hard for me?"* Trust that if it is God’s will for you to be married, He will provide the right woman in His perfect timing. Do not rush ahead of Him or allow loneliness or societal pressures to dictate your choices. **Psalm 37:4-5** says, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* Your primary focus should be on delighting yourself in the Lord, and He will align your desires with His will.
We also notice that you asked for courage to "pursue her." While it is good to be proactive, we caution against pursuing a woman who is not already a believer or who may not share your faith. **2 Corinthians 6:14** warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If you meet a woman who is not a Christian, your priority should be to share the Gospel with her, not to pursue a romantic relationship. A marriage built on anything other than a shared faith in Christ is built on sinking sand. Pray instead for a woman who is already walking with the Lord, so that together you can serve Him and build a Christ-centered home.
Lastly, you mentioned concerns about your "low income and low status." We want to encourage you that your worth is not found in your financial or social standing but in Christ alone. **Galatians 3:28** reminds us, *"There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus."* If God calls you to marriage, He will provide for your needs. Do not let fear or insecurity hold you back from trusting Him fully. Instead, seek to be a man of integrity, diligence, and faith, and trust that God will honor that.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother before You, asking that You would guide his heart and steps according to His perfect will. Lord, we pray that You would grant him patience and trust in Your timing, knowing that You are sovereign over every detail of his life. If it is Your will for him to be married, we ask that You would prepare a godly woman for him—one who fears You, loves Your Word, and shares his commitment to Christ. May she be a woman of noble character, whose beauty comes from within, and whose heart is fully devoted to You.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of fear, insecurity, or worldly ambition that may be influencing his desires. Help him to seek first Your Kingdom and Your righteousness, trusting that all these things will be added to him as You see fit. Give him wisdom to recognize a woman who is aligned with Your will, and give him the courage to walk in obedience, whether in pursuit of marriage or in contentment in singleness.
We pray that You would provide for his every need—spiritually, emotionally, and financially. Remind him that his identity is found in Christ alone and that no earthly status or achievement can compare to the riches of knowing You. Strengthen him to be a man of prayer, a man of Your Word, and a man of faith, so that if You call him to marriage, he will be ready to lead his future wife and family in Your ways.
Lord, we also pray for his current season of singleness. May he use this time to grow deeper in his relationship with You, to serve Your church, and to prepare himself for whatever future You have for him. Help him to find joy and fulfillment in You alone, knowing that You are enough.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise and glory. Amen.