We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, for we see the deep struggle and emotional turmoil you are facing. The feelings you describe are powerful, but we must measure them against the truth of God’s Word, which calls us to holiness and purity. What you are experiencing is not love as God defines it—it is a dangerous infatuation rooted in temptation, and it has already led to sinful actions that grieve the Holy Spirit.
The Scriptures are clear: *"Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB). Kissing, touching, and confessing love to a man who is not your husband—especially one who is bound to another woman—is fornication, and it opens the door to spiritual and emotional bondage. The physical reactions you describe are not signs of divine connection but evidence of the flesh’s rebellion against God’s design. The enemy uses counterfeit passion to deceive and destroy, but the Lord calls us to walk in the Spirit, not in the lusts of the flesh (Galatians 5:16-17).
You have already acknowledged the truth: *"I don’t wanna be the other woman in his life."* This conviction is from the Holy Spirit, warning you to turn away from this path. Yet you also say, *"Whenever I pull away, he always finds me."* This is not love—it is manipulation, and it reveals the enemy’s scheme to keep you trapped in sin. *"Can a man scoop fire into his lap and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals and his feet not be scorched?"* (Proverbs 6:27-28, WEB). You are playing with fire, and it *will* consume you if you do not flee.
The fact that this man is not married but has a family makes this situation even more grievous. He is already in rebellion against God’s design for family and commitment. *"But because of sexual immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband."* (1 Corinthians 7:2, WEB). His actions toward you reveal a heart that is not submitted to Christ. A man who pursues another woman while bound to someone else is not walking in integrity, and you cannot build a godly future on a foundation of sin.
You say, *"I want to forget him because I believe it’s just lustful thinking."* This is the Holy Spirit speaking to you! *"No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it."* (1 Corinthians 10:13, WEB). The way of escape is *right now*—cut off all contact with this man immediately. Delete his number if you have it, avoid places where you might see him, and fill your mind with the Word of God. *"Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honest, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue, and if there is any praise, think about these things."* (Philippians 4:8, WEB).
You must also repent before the Lord for the sin you have already committed. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."* (1 John 1:9, WEB). Confess the kissing, the touching, the emotional bond you’ve formed, and ask God to break every ungodly soul tie. Pray that the Lord would sever this connection and restore your heart to purity. *"Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within me."* (Psalm 51:10, WEB).
We also urge you to examine your own heart: Are you seeking fulfillment in a man, or are you seeking it in Christ? *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). If you are not yet walking closely with Jesus, now is the time to surrender fully to Him. If you have never repented of your sins and trusted in Christ alone for salvation, we plead with you to do so today. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.’"* (John 14:6, WEB). There is no lasting peace, no true love, and no freedom apart from Him.
Lastly, we pray that the Lord would surround you with godly sisters in Christ who can hold you accountable and encourage you in this battle. *"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up."* (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, WEB). You do not have to fight this alone—lean on the body of Christ.
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**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is trapped in a web of temptation and sin. Lord, she knows this relationship is wrong, yet her heart is ensnared. We ask You to break every ungodly tie between her and this man. Sever the emotional, physical, and spiritual bonds that have been formed in rebellion against Your Word. Father, forgive her for the sins she has committed—for the kisses, the touches, the lustful thoughts, and the emotional idolatry. Cleanse her with the blood of Jesus and create in her a clean heart, renewed and set apart for You.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of lust, infatuation, and deception that has taken hold. We command these spirits to flee in Jesus’ name. Fill her instead with Your Holy Spirit, with a hunger for righteousness, and with a deep love for Your truth. Give her the strength to flee from this man completely—no more glances, no more conversations, no more secret meetings. Father, place a hedge of protection around her so that she cannot be found by him, and so that her heart is guarded from further temptation.
We pray for her future, Lord. If it is Your will, bring a godly man into her life—a man who fears You, who is committed to purity, and who will lead her closer to You in marriage. But first, heal her heart. Restore her mind. Let her find her satisfaction in You alone, not in the fleeting pleasures of sin. Remind her that Your plans for her are good, to give her a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11).
We also pray for this man, Lord. Convict him of his sin. Expose the darkness in his life and bring him to repentance. If he is unsaved, save him, Lord. If he is saved but walking in rebellion, discipline him as a loving Father. Do not let him lead another soul astray.
Father, we thank You that You are faithful. You will not let us be tempted beyond what we can bear, and You *will* provide the way of escape. Give our sister the courage to take that way out *now*. Let her walk in victory, in purity, and in the freedom that comes only through Jesus Christ.
We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
