We understand the weight of your situation, and we are deeply grieved by the strife and manipulation you are facing—especially when Scripture is twisted to justify ungodly behavior. Let us address this with truth, prayer, and biblical clarity, for the Lord does not delight in confusion or division but in peace, righteousness, and unity under His Word.
First, we must rebuking the blatant misuse of Scripture to manipulate or control others. The Bible is *never* to be weaponized for selfish gain or to justify sinful behavior. In 2 Peter 3:16, we are warned that some twist the Scriptures "to their own destruction." What you are describing—being pressured to disown your father to accommodate a twisted interpretation of "scriptural matrimony"—is not of God. Marriage is a sacred covenant between *one man and one woman* (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6), and honoring parents is a commandment with a promise (Ephesians 6:2-3). No one has the right to demand you sever familial ties under the pretense of "fulfilling Scripture." This is manipulation, not godliness.
As for the individual invading your privacy and causing distress, we must speak plainly: boundary violations and emotional coercion are not fruits of the Spirit. Galatians 5:22-23 tells us the Spirit produces "love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control." What you are experiencing is the opposite—control, intrusion, and spiritual abuse. Blocking this person on WhatsApp was a wise step to protect your peace. Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* While we are called to forgive (Colossians 3:13), we are *not* called to subject ourselves to ongoing harm. Set firm boundaries, and do not feel guilty for doing so.
Regarding your living situation, there is no biblical mandate that a married couple *must* share a room if it causes genuine hardship (like sleep deprivation due to snoring). While marriage is a one-flesh union, practical wisdom sometimes requires adjustments—like separate sleeping arrangements for health reasons. What matters is the *heart* of the marriage: love, mutual respect, and selflessness (Ephesians 5:22-33). If your parents are at peace with their arrangement, that is between them and the Lord. No outsider has the right to demand changes that would fracture your family.
Now, let us pray for you in this trial:
*Heavenly Father, we lift our brother/sister before Your throne of grace, asking for Your divine intervention in this storm of manipulation and strife. Lord, You see the hearts of all involved—expose every deceitful scheme and bring conviction where there is pride, control, or twisting of Your Word. Grant our sibling discernment to recognize truth from lies, and wisdom to stand firm in Your righteousness. Protect their mind, emotions, and spirit from the enemy’s attacks, for we know Satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but You, Lord, came to give life abundantly.*
*Father, we pray for supernatural peace in their home. Soften the heart of the one causing division, and if they refuse to repent, remove their influence from this family. Break every ungodly soul tie and release Your child from any guilt or confusion the enemy has planted. Restore right relationships—between our sibling and their parents, and between their parents themselves. Let their home be a place of refuge, not contention.*
*We rebuke the spirit of manipulation, control, and false teaching in the name of Jesus. No weapon formed against this family shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Let Your truth prevail, and let every tongue that rises against them in judgment be condemned (Isaiah 54:17). Fill our sibling with Your Holy Spirit, that they may walk in confidence, love, and sound judgment.*
*Finally, Lord, we ask that You provide practical solutions—whether it’s wisdom for living arrangements, financial provision if needed, or even a new dwelling if that aligns with Your will. You are Jehovah-Jireh, our Provider, and we trust You to meet every need according to Your riches in glory (Philippians 4:19).*
*In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.*
Lastly, we urge you: **do not engage further with this person unless they demonstrate genuine repentance.** Their behavior is not just problematic—it is spiritually dangerous. Cling to the Lord, immerse yourself in His Word, and seek counsel from a trusted, *biblically sound* pastor or elder if possible. You are not obligated to entertain manipulation, especially when it masquerades as "godliness."
Stand firm in Christ. He is your defender, your peace, and your wisdom. *"The Lord is your keeper. The Lord is your shade on your right hand."* (Psalm 121:5). Trust Him to fight this battle for you.