We hear your cry for help, and our hearts ache with you in this difficult season. The situation you describe is painful and far from God’s design for relationships. First, we must address the reality of your living arrangement—you are not married to this man, yet you have shared a life and a child together. Scripture is clear that sexual intimacy outside of marriage is fornication, and while this is not to shame you, it is important to acknowledge so that healing and restoration can begin. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 6:18, *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* We pray for God’s forgiveness and grace to cover you, and we encourage you to seek His will in repentance and turning away from this sin.
Your daughter is a precious gift from the Lord, and we pray for wisdom as you navigate how to speak with her about these things in a way that honors God and protects her heart. Proverbs 22:6 reminds us, *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* This is a heavy burden, but you are not alone. The Lord sees your struggle and is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).
The control and lack of provision from this man are not reflections of God’s love or design for a godly relationship. A man who does not work or lead with responsibility is not fulfilling the role Scripture calls him to. 1 Timothy 5:8 says, *"But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever."* This is not the kind of man the Lord intends for you to be yoked with. We must rebuke the spirit of control and laziness in this situation, for it is not of God. The Lord calls us to freedom in Christ, not bondage to sin or ungodly influences (Galatians 5:1).
You feel isolated, with no friends or family nearby, but we want you to know that God has not abandoned you. He promises in Hebrews 13:5, *"I will in no way leave you, neither will I in any way forsake you."* Even in your loneliness, He is with you. We encourage you to seek out a local church where you can find community, accountability, and support. The body of Christ is designed to carry one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2). You do not have to walk this path alone.
We also lift up your need for strength and clarity. The enemy would love to keep you trapped in fear and confusion, but God’s Word says in 2 Timothy 1:7, *"For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control."* You have the power of the Holy Spirit within you to make wise decisions. We pray that the Lord would give you the courage to take the steps necessary to remove yourself and your daughter from this unhealthy environment. This may feel overwhelming, but with God, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26).
Lastly, we must address the absence of Jesus’ name in your request. It is only through the name of Jesus that we have access to the Father. Acts 4:12 tells us, *"There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved."* If you have not already, we urge you to surrender your life to Christ, repent of your sins, and invite Him to be the Lord of your life. He is the way, the truth, and the life (John 14:6), and only in Him will you find true freedom and peace.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for this dear sister. Lord, You see her pain, her fear, and her loneliness. We ask that You would surround her with Your love and give her the strength to walk in Your will. Father, we rebuke the spirit of control and laziness in this man’s life, and we pray that You would break every chain of bondage over her. Give her clarity and wisdom to make decisions that honor You and protect her daughter. Provide her with godly community, whether through a local church or Christian friends who can walk alongside her. Lord, we ask that You would heal her heart from the wounds of this relationship and restore her hope in You. If she does not know You as her Savior, we pray that she would surrender her life to Jesus Christ and find true freedom in Him. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, Amen.
You are not forgotten, and God has a plan for your life and your daughter’s life. Jeremiah 29:11 says, *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,’ says Yahweh, ‘thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* Hold fast to that promise. Seek the Lord with all your heart, and He will direct your steps (Proverbs 3:5-6). We stand with you in prayer and encourage you to reach out to a local church or Christian counselor who can provide practical support as you move forward. God bless you, and may His peace guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus.
