We join you in lifting up this courtship before the Lord, recognizing that a godly marriage is built on the foundation of Christ and His Word. It is encouraging to see you praying for your future spouse with such intentionality, as Scripture calls us to seek relationships that honor God in every way. Your prayer reflects a heart that desires righteousness, and we commend you for seeking the Lord’s will in this season of preparation.
First, we must address the importance of salvation, as you rightly invoked the name of Jesus in your prayer. There is no greater need for your future spouse—or for any of us—than to be saved through faith in Jesus Christ. The Apostle Peter declares, *“There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!”* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If your future spouse has not yet surrendered their life to Christ, we urge you to pray fervently for their salvation, as a marriage between two believers is the only union that can fully reflect Christ’s love for His Church (2 Corinthians 6:14-15). Without this shared foundation, even the most well-intentioned relationship will struggle to align with God’s design.
Your prayer also highlights qualities that are vital for a godly marriage: dedication, commitment, care, and consistency. These are fruits of the Spirit’s work in a person’s life, and we join you in asking the Lord to cultivate them in your future spouse. Proverbs 18:22 tells us, *“Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh”* (WEB), and the same is true for a husband who seeks to honor God. A marriage rooted in Christ will naturally bear the fruit of selflessness, respect, and mutual submission (Ephesians 5:21-33). We pray that the Lord would break any spirit of self-righteousness, disrespect, or contempt in your future spouse’s heart, replacing it with humility and a servant’s heart, just as Christ demonstrated when He washed the feet of His disciples (John 13:1-17).
However, we must also encourage you to examine your own heart in this season of courtship. Are you praying not only for your future spouse’s growth but also for your own? Are you seeking to reflect Christ’s love in your words and actions, even now? Courtship is a time of preparation, and both individuals must be actively pursuing holiness. First Peter 3:7 reminds husbands to *“live with your wives in an understanding way, as with the weaker vessel, since they are joint heirs with you of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered”* (WEB). This principle applies to both men and women in courtship: mutual respect, understanding, and a shared commitment to Christ are essential.
We also notice your prayer mentions boundaries, which is wise and biblical. Boundaries are not just personal preferences; they are a reflection of godly wisdom and self-control. First Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, *“For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God”* (WEB). If physical or emotional boundaries are being tested in your courtship, we urge you both to flee from temptation and pursue purity. A relationship that honors God will not rush into intimacy but will instead build a foundation of trust, communication, and shared faith.
Finally, we must address the term “courtship partner.” While we understand the intent, Scripture does not use this language. Instead, it speaks of a man and woman coming together in marriage (Genesis 2:24) or, in the case of unmarried believers, pursuing one another with the clear intention of marriage (1 Corinthians 7:2). Courtship should be a season of intentionality, where both individuals are prayerfully considering whether they are called to marry one another. If this is not the goal, then the relationship risks becoming a distraction rather than a godly pursuit. We encourage you to clarify your intentions with your future spouse and ensure that you are both seeking the Lord’s will for marriage, not simply companionship.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the precious name of Jesus, lifting up this courtship and the hearts of both individuals involved. Lord, we ask that You would draw [name withheld] into a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ if they do not yet know You. Soften their heart to receive Your truth, and let them experience the transformative power of Your grace. Father, we pray that You would cultivate in them a spirit of dedication, commitment, and consistency—qualities that reflect Your character. Break every chain of self-righteousness, disrespect, or contempt, and replace it with humility, love, and a servant’s heart.
Lord, we ask that You would help both individuals in this courtship to honor You in their thoughts, words, and actions. Give them wisdom to establish and respect godly boundaries, fleeing from temptation and pursuing purity. Let their relationship be a testament to Your design for marriage, built on mutual submission, understanding, and a shared love for You.
Father, if this courtship is not aligned with Your will, we ask that You would make it clear to both of them. Give them the courage to walk away if necessary, trusting in Your perfect plan. But if it is Your will for them to marry, we pray that You would prepare their hearts, unite them in purpose, and strengthen them to build a home that glorifies You.
We rebuke any spirit of division, confusion, or worldly influence that would seek to distort Your plan for this relationship. Let Your Word be their guide, and let Your Spirit lead them into all truth. May their love for one another be rooted in their love for You, and may their marriage—if it is Your will—be a light to the world.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
