We hear your cry for help and lift your marriage before the Lord with heavy hearts. The pain and bitterness you describe are real, and the Enemy would love nothing more than to see this union torn apart. But we serve a God who specializes in restoration—one who can turn ashes into beauty and hatred into love when we surrender to His will.
First, we must address the root of the conflict. The Bible warns us in Ephesians 4:29-31, *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit of God, in whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice."* The words you and your husband have spoken to one another have grieved the Holy Spirit and deepened the wound. But there is hope—repentance and forgiveness can break this cycle.
You are right that divorce is not God’s design for marriage. Jesus Himself said in Matthew 19:6, *"So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart."* Even when we feel trapped by circumstances, God calls us to fight for our marriages—not for the sake of the children alone, but because He has a purpose for your union. The Enemy wants you to believe that staying together is only about obligation, but God wants to redeem this marriage for His glory.
We must also rebuke the spirit of unforgiveness in both of your hearts. In Mark 11:25, Jesus says, *"Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone; so that your Father, who is in heaven, may also forgive you your transgressions."* Unforgiveness is a poison that only harms the one who holds onto it. We pray that God would soften your hearts toward one another and help you release the bitterness that has taken root.
Let us pray together now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken hearts for this marriage. Lord, we ask that You would intervene in the lives of this husband and wife. Soften their hearts toward one another and help them to see each other through Your eyes. Father, we repent on their behalf for the harsh words spoken, the bitterness held, and the unforgiveness that has taken root. We ask that You would cleanse them of all malice and fill them with Your love and grace.
Lord, we declare that this marriage is not beyond Your healing touch. We speak restoration over their relationship—restoration of trust, restoration of communication, and restoration of love. Help them to lay down their pride and seek reconciliation with humility. Father, we ask that You would give them wisdom and clarity as they navigate this difficult season. Show them how to rebuild what has been broken and guide them in Your ways.
We also pray for protection over this family. Guard their hearts from the Enemy’s lies and help them to remember that their marriage is a covenant before You. Strengthen them to fight for their union, not just for the sake of their children, but for the sake of Your kingdom.
Lord, we ask that You would fill this home with Your peace. Where there has been strife, let Your presence bring calm. Where there has been division, let Your love bring unity. We trust in Your power to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we can ask or think. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
Now, dear sister, we encourage you to take practical steps toward healing. Seek godly counsel—whether through your pastor, a trusted mentor, or a Christian marriage counselor. Pray together with your husband, even if it feels awkward at first. The Bible tells us in James 5:16, *"Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective."* There is power in humility and prayer.
Also, spend time in God’s Word. Meditate on passages about love, forgiveness, and marriage. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 is a beautiful reminder of what love truly looks like: *"Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."*
Lastly, we must address the importance of Jesus in this process. It is only through Him that true reconciliation and peace are possible. If you or your husband do not have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, we urge you to surrender your lives to Him. Romans 10:9 says, *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."* Salvation is the first step toward healing—not just for your marriage, but for your souls.
We stand with you in this battle, believing that God can do a mighty work in your marriage. Do not lose hope. The same God who parted the Red Sea can part the storm in your home. Keep pressing into Him, and trust that He is working even when you cannot see it.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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