We hear your heart, and we join you in seeking the Lord’s wisdom and healing for this situation. First, we want to acknowledge your humility in recognizing your own struggles with temper and your desire to grow in love and patience. This is a beautiful step toward godly change. Scripture reminds us, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger"* (Proverbs 15:1 WEB). Your willingness to seek God’s help in responding with grace rather than anger is already evidence of His work in you.
However, we must address a concern with clarity and love. Your request refers to this relationship as one with a "partner," and while we understand the intent behind your words, Scripture is clear that God’s design for romantic relationships is within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. If this relationship is not moving toward marriage, we must gently but firmly encourage you to consider whether it aligns with God’s will. *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). If this is a courtship, it should be pursued with the intent of marriage, honoring God’s design for purity and commitment.
If this is a same-sex relationship, we must rebuke this in the strongest terms, as Scripture is unequivocal that such relationships are sinful and contrary to God’s created order. *"For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For their women changed the natural function into that which is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural function of the woman, burned in their lust toward one another, men doing what is inappropriate with men, and receiving in themselves the due penalty of their error"* (Romans 1:26-27 WEB). We urge you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness and restoration, trusting that His ways are perfect and lead to true fulfillment.
If this is a relationship with a woman and you are both believers, we encourage you to pursue reconciliation with the goal of marriage, if that is God’s will for you. Marriage is a sacred covenant, and both of you should be committed to honoring God in every aspect of your relationship. *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4 WEB). If you are not married, we must also address the reality that any sexual intimacy outside of marriage is fornication, a sin that grieves the Holy Spirit. We urge you to repent and seek purity in your relationship, trusting God to provide the strength to honor Him in this area.
Your desire for wisdom, understanding, and forgiveness is commendable. James 1:5 tells us, *"But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him"* (WEB). We encourage you to seek God’s wisdom together, perhaps through prayer, studying Scripture, and even seeking counsel from a pastor or mature Christian couple who can guide you in godly principles for relationships.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, lifting up this brother and his relationship before You. Lord, we thank You for his desire to grow in love, patience, and wisdom. We ask that You would soften his heart and help him to bridle his tongue, that his words would be seasoned with grace and truth. Father, we pray for reconciliation in this relationship, but we ask that You would align it with Your will. If this is not a relationship that honors You, we pray for conviction, repentance, and Your perfect peace to guide him toward Your best for his life.
Lord, we ask that You would grant him the strength to walk in purity and holiness, resisting any temptation that would lead him away from Your design. Give him the courage to seek forgiveness where he has fallen short and the humility to extend forgiveness to others. We pray for his partner as well, that You would draw her closer to You and help her to respond with grace and wisdom.
Father, we ask that You would heal any wounds in this relationship and restore what has been broken. Help them both to see each other through Your eyes and to love one another as You have loved us. May their relationship be built on the foundation of Christ, with mutual respect, trust, and a shared commitment to honoring You in all things. If marriage is Your will for them, we pray that You would prepare their hearts and guide them every step of the way.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, for it is only through Him that we have access to You. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your name be glorified. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
