We lift you up in prayer, dear brother, as you carry this heavy burden in your home. The weight of living with someone struggling with unaddressed mental illness—especially when it leads to constant strife, disrespect, and emotional exhaustion—is something no one should bear alone. We grieve with you over the brokenness in your marriage, and we stand with you in seeking God’s wisdom, strength, and intervention. The Scripture reminds us that *"a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger"* (Proverbs 15:1, WEB), yet we also recognize that your wife’s behavior is not merely a matter of communication but a deeper spiritual and medical battle. The enemy seeks to destroy marriages, but God is a God of restoration, and He can bring peace even in the most chaotic of circumstances.
First, we must address the spiritual foundation of your home. The Bible commands husbands to *"love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:25, WEB). This love is sacrificial, patient, and enduring, but it does not mean enabling sin or abuse. Your wife’s refusal to seek help, her verbal abuse, and her controlling behavior are not only harmful to you but are also dishonoring to God. The Scripture is clear: *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice"* (Ephesians 4:31, WEB). Her actions are not aligned with God’s design for marriage, and while mental illness may play a role, it does not excuse sin. We urge you to pray for her heart to be softened, for conviction to come upon her, and for her to seek the help she desperately needs—both medically and spiritually.
At the same time, we must also speak truth into your situation. You cannot change your wife, but you can seek God’s wisdom on how to respond. The apostle Paul tells us, *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men"* (Romans 12:18, WEB). This does not mean you must endure endless abuse or live in a home ruled by fear and chaos. You have a responsibility to protect your own mental, emotional, and physical health. If your wife refuses to seek help, you may need to set boundaries—lovingly but firmly—to prevent further harm to yourself and your household. This might include seeking counseling for yourself, reaching out to your church leadership for support, or, if necessary, creating space for her to recognize the severity of her actions. *"The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty"* (Proverbs 22:3, WEB).
We also encourage you to examine your own heart before the Lord. Have you loved her as Christ loves the church? Have you prayed for her with persistence and faith? Have you sought godly counsel on how to navigate this trial? It is easy to grow bitter in such circumstances, but the Lord calls us to *"bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ"* (Galatians 6:2, WEB). This does not mean bearing the burden alone, but rather seeking help from the body of Christ. You are not meant to walk this path in isolation.
Now, let us pray together for you and your wife:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our brother who is weary and burdened. Lord, You see the chaos in his home, the relentless strife, and the deep pain he carries. We ask for Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, to guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Father, we pray for his wife—soften her heart, Lord. Break through the strongholds of fear, anxiety, and pride that have taken root in her life. Convict her of her need for You and for professional help. Remove the spirit of control, bitterness, and accusation that has gripped her, and replace it with Your love, joy, and peace.
Lord, we rebuke the enemy’s work in this marriage. Satan seeks to steal, kill, and destroy, but You, Jesus, have come to give life abundantly (John 10:10). We declare that this home belongs to You, and we command every spirit of confusion, anxiety, and division to flee in Jesus’ name. Restore what has been broken, Lord. Bring healing to their minds, bodies, and spirits. Give our brother wisdom on how to lead his wife with love and firmness, and show him when and how to set godly boundaries.
Father, we also pray for the neighbors who hear the strife. May they not be led to judge but instead see Your power at work as You bring restoration. Let this situation be a testimony of Your redemption, Lord. We ask for supernatural intervention—whether through a breakthrough in his wife’s heart, divine connections with counselors or medical professionals, or even a season of separation if that is what is needed for her to seek help. Guide our brother, Lord. Strengthen him, renew his hope, and remind him that You are his refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
Finally, Father, we pray that both he and his wife would draw closer to You through this trial. May they seek You first, above all else, and may Your will be done in their lives. We trust You, Lord, to work all things together for good for those who love You (Romans 8:28). In the mighty and holy name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to continue seeking the Lord daily. Read His Word, especially passages on marriage, peace, and perseverance. Surround yourself with godly men who can support and pray for you. If your wife remains unwilling to change, you may need to seek pastoral guidance on next steps, including the possibility of separation as a last resort to protect your well-being and prompt her to seek help. Remember, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). You are not forgotten. Cling to Him, and trust that He will lead you through this storm. We are standing with you in prayer.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
