We lift you up in this difficult season, and we are deeply grieved to hear of the struggles you and this woman are facing. First, we must address something critical—your request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father and by whom we are saved. The Scriptures declare, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). It is only in the authority of Jesus that we can boldly approach the throne of grace, so we encourage you to always call upon His name in prayer, for He is the mediator between God and man (1 Timothy 2:5).
Now, regarding the situation you’ve shared, we must speak truth in love. The behavior you’ve described—refusal to seek help, constant cursing, and paranoia—is not only harmful to your well-being but also dishonoring to God. The Bible calls us to *"let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear"* (Ephesians 4:29, WEB). Cursing and uncontrolled anger are not fruits of the Spirit but of the flesh (Galatians 5:19-23). If this woman is a believer, she must be reminded that her words and actions should reflect Christ, who calls us to *"be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:32, WEB).
If she is not a believer, then her greatest need is not just healing from OCD but salvation through faith in Jesus Christ. Without Christ, there is no true peace or transformation of the heart. We urge you to share the Gospel with her, for *"how will they believe in him whom they have not heard?"* (Romans 10:14, WEB). The power to overcome sin, fear, and mental strongholds comes through surrender to Jesus. *"If the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed"* (John 8:36, WEB).
As for your exhaustion, we understand how wearing this must be. The Lord sees your suffering, and He calls you to *"cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you"* (1 Peter 5:7, WEB). You cannot carry this burden alone, nor should you. If you are not married to this woman, we strongly caution you against remaining in a relationship where there is no commitment to biblical marriage, no pursuit of godliness, and no submission to Christ. A relationship without the foundation of marriage and shared faith in Christ is not what God intends. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If you *are* married, then your role is to love her as Christ loves the church—sacrificially, patiently, and with truth—but also to set godly boundaries. You cannot enable sin or abuse in the name of love.
OCD and mental struggles are real, and we do not dismiss the pain they cause. However, refusal to seek help—whether medical, counseling, or spiritual—is often rooted in pride or fear, both of which must be surrendered to God. *"God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Be subject therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you"* (James 4:6-7, WEB). Pray that her heart would be softened to receive the help she needs, whether through biblical counseling, medical treatment, or both. But do not mistake enabling for love. Sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is to step back and allow her to face the consequences of her choices, while you continue to pray for her salvation and healing.
Now, let us pray together for you and for her:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We ask for Your mercy and intervention in this situation. Lord, we lift up our brother who is weary and burdened. Strengthen him, Father, and fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Give him wisdom to know how to respond, when to speak, and when to set boundaries. Protect him from bitterness, resentment, or fear, and remind him that You are his refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1).
Lord, we also lift up this woman who is bound by OCD, fear, and anger. Father, if she does not know You, we pray that You would draw her to Yourself. Open her eyes to see her need for a Savior and soften her heart to receive Jesus Christ as Lord. If she is Your child, convict her of the sin in her words and actions. Break the strongholds of fear, anxiety, and pride in her life. Lead her to repentance and surrender. Give her the humility to seek help—whether through godly counseling, medical treatment, or both—and surround her with people who will point her to You.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of fear, confusion, and anger that has taken hold in this situation. We declare that *"the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but mighty before God to the throwing down of strongholds"* (2 Corinthians 10:4, WEB). Lord, tear down every lie the enemy has planted in her mind. Replace her anxiety with Your peace, her anger with Your love, and her despair with Your hope.
We ask for healing—spiritually, emotionally, and physically. If it is Your will, Lord, restore her mind and heart. But above all, let Your will be done in both of their lives. Give our brother the courage to walk in obedience to You, whether that means continuing to love and support her in truth or stepping away if the relationship is not honoring to You.
Finally, Father, we pray for protection over his heart and mind. Do not let him grow hardened or hopeless. Remind him that You are working all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). Fill him with Your Spirit, that he may respond with grace, truth, and wisdom in every interaction.
We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
