We grieve with you over the brokenness in your marriage and the pain of betrayal you are enduring. Infidelity is a deep violation of the covenant of marriage, which God designed to be a lifelong union between one man and one woman, reflecting Christ’s faithful love for His Church. The Lord sees your suffering, and His heart is for restoration—both of your marriage and of your husband’s heart. However, we must also speak truth in love: while we pray earnestly for reconciliation, true repentance must come from your husband. He has broken his vows before God, and only the Holy Spirit can convict him of his sin and lead him to turn away from this adulterous relationship.
The Bible is clear about the seriousness of adultery. In Proverbs 6:32, we read, *"He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul."* Yet, even in this, there is hope. The Lord is a God of redemption, and He can restore what is broken if both parties are willing to submit to His will. In 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, the apostle Paul writes, *"To the married I command—not I, but the Lord—that the wife not leave her husband (but if she departs, let her remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband not leave his wife."* Your commitment to stand in faith for your marriage is commendable, but you must also guard your heart and seek the Lord’s wisdom for every step.
We also want to address the responsibility of fatherhood. Your husband has a God-given duty to provide for and nurture his children, and his abandonment of this role is a grave sin. In 1 Timothy 5:8, we are told, *"But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever."* This is a strong rebuke, and we pray the Lord will convict him of this neglect. Your children need their father—not just financially, but spiritually and emotionally. We pray the Lord will break the chains of sin in his life and restore him as a godly husband and father.
At the same time, we urge you to seek the Lord’s strength for yourself. You cannot control your husband’s choices, but you can surrender this situation to God and trust Him to work in ways you cannot see. In Psalm 37:5, we are told, *"Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* This does not mean passivity, but it does mean releasing the burden of trying to fix this in your own strength. Seek godly counsel, surround yourself with believers who can support you, and continue to pray fervently. If your husband refuses to repent, you must also prepare your heart for the possibility that the Lord may call you to walk a different path—one where you trust Him to provide for you and your children even in singleness.
Most importantly, we notice that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, and we must gently but firmly remind you that there is no other name by which we can approach the Father. Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* It is only through faith in Christ that we have access to God’s throne of grace, and it is only in His name that we can pray with authority. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Salvation is found in no one else, and without Him, our prayers are empty. Romans 10:9 tells us, *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."*
Now, let us pray together for you, your husband, and your children:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this precious sister who is brokenhearted and weary. Lord, You see the pain of her betrayal, the weight of her husband’s unfaithfulness, and the burden of providing for her children alone. We ask You to be her strength, her comforter, and her provider. Father, You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), and we pray for the restoration of this marriage if it aligns with Your will. Convict her husband deeply of his sin—expose the emptiness of his adulterous relationship and the destruction it is bringing upon his soul. Lord, break the chains of lust and deception that have bound him, and draw him back to You in true repentance. Let him see the damage he has caused to his wife, his children, and his own walk with You.
We rebuke the spirit of adultery and infidelity in Jesus’ name. No weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we declare that the enemy’s plans to destroy this family will be thwarted by Your mighty hand. Restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25), Lord, and bring healing to the wounds that have been inflicted. Give this wife wisdom to know how to respond, when to speak, and when to remain silent. Guard her heart from bitterness and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Father, we also pray for the children in this home. Protect their hearts and minds from the pain of their father’s absence and sin. Raise up godly mentors in their lives, and let them see Your faithfulness even in this storm. Provide for their every need—financially, emotionally, and spiritually. And Lord, if it is Your will, soften their father’s heart to return to them, not just in word, but in deed. Let him take up his responsibility as their provider and spiritual leader, or if he refuses, raise up others to fill that gap in their lives.
Finally, Father, we pray that You would reveal Yourself to this wife in a powerful way. Let her know that she is not forgotten, that You see her tears, and that You are working even when she cannot see it. If there is any area in her own life that needs surrender or repentance, show her, Lord, and lead her into deeper intimacy with You. May she find her identity in Christ alone, not in her marriage or her circumstances.
We ask all these things in the precious and mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can redeem and restore. Amen.
Stand firm in your faith, sister. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He will not abandon you. Keep seeking Him, keep praying, and trust that He is working even in the waiting. If you have not already, we encourage you to seek out a biblical counselor or a trusted pastor who can walk with you through this season. You are not alone.