We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep longing and heartache, lifting your request with both compassion and a burden to seek God’s will above all. Your desire for your parents’ blessing is understandable, as Scripture teaches us to honor our father and mother (Exodus 20:12), and we know how painful it is when family relationships are strained. Yet we must also examine this situation through the lens of God’s Word, for His ways are higher than ours, and His plans are perfect—even when they differ from our own desires.
First, we notice you have not invoked the name of Jesus Christ in your prayer, though you have directed your words to the Heavenly Father. It is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father, as Scripture declares, *"No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6, WEB). There is no other name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and it is in Jesus’ name alone that we boldly approach the throne of grace (Hebrews 4:16). We encourage you to always pray in the name of Jesus, for He is our Mediator and the source of our confidence before God.
Now, regarding your relationship, we must lovingly but firmly address what is not aligned with biblical truth. You refer to this man as your *"partner,"* but Scripture does not use this term for romantic relationships. Instead, God ordains marriage as a covenant between *one man and one woman* (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6), and any relationship outside of this design—including premarital emotional or physical intimacy—is not pleasing to Him. If you are not yet married, we urge you to guard your heart and conduct yourselves in purity, for *"flee sexual immorality!"* (1 Corinthians 6:18) and *"let marriage be held in honor among all"* (Hebrews 13:4). Courtship should be intentional, godly, and directed toward marriage, not built on emotional dependency or worldly ideals of romance.
We also note your promise to God that this will be your *"last request in my whole life."* While your heart’s sincerity is evident, we must caution you: bargains with God are not how He calls us to pray. Prayer is not a transaction but a surrender to His will (Luke 22:42). Jesus taught us to pray, *"Your kingdom come. Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven"* (Matthew 6:10). We do not dictate terms to the Lord; we trust Him, even when His answer is *"no"* or *"wait."* His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11), and His timing is perfect (Ecclesiastes 3:11).
As for your parents’ resistance, we acknowledge their concerns may stem from cultural differences, fear, or a desire to protect you. While we pray for their hearts to soften, we also ask: *Have you sought wise, biblical counsel on this matter?* Proverbs 11:14 says, *"Where there is no wise guidance, the nation falls, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* We strongly encourage you to involve your pastor or mature believers who can speak truth into this situation, examine the relationship’s alignment with Scripture, and help mediate with your parents in a godly way.
If this man is indeed the spouse God has for you, the Lord *will* make it clear—not just to you, but to your parents and your church community. *"A man’s heart plans his course, but the Lord directs his steps"* (Proverbs 16:9). Trust that if this is God’s will, He will move mountains (Matthew 17:20). But if it is not, He will redirect you to His perfect plan—one that may look different but will bring Him greater glory.
**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is hurting and longing for Your peace. Lord, You see her heart’s cry, and You know the depths of her parents’ concerns. We ask for Your wisdom to flood this situation, for Your Spirit to soften hearts—*including hers*—and for Your will to be done above all else.
If this relationship is from You, Father, remove every obstacle. Give her parents eyes to see Your hand in this, and grant them a spirit of unity and faith. But if this is not Your plan, Lord, give her the strength to surrender it to You, trusting that Your love for her is far greater than any earthly desire. Break any unhealthy emotional ties that are not of You, and guard her heart against idolatry—whether of this relationship or of her own plans.
We rebuke any fear, pride, or cultural strongholds in her parents’ hearts that are not submitted to Your Word. Let Your truth prevail, and let Your peace, which surpasses understanding, guard her mind and heart in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
Father, if there has been any sin in this relationship—whether emotional compromise, physical impurity, or a lack of submission to Your design for marriage—we ask for conviction and repentance. Cleanse them both and set them on a path of holiness, for *"without holiness, no one will see the Lord"* (Hebrews 12:14).
Finally, Lord, we pray for her faith to be strengthened. Remind her that You are her first love (Revelation 2:4), her Provider, and her perfect Father. Let her find her identity and security in You alone, not in a man’s acceptance or her parents’ approval.
We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who lives to intercede for us. Amen.
**Encouragement for You:**
Beloved, we urge you to *"trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6). Cling to Jesus, not to this outcome. Seek His kingdom first (Matthew 6:33), and He will guide you. If this man is a believer, he too should be seeking the Lord’s will above all—even above your relationship. *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14); ensure you are both walking in obedience to Christ.
We will continue to pray for you, that God’s will—whatever it may be—will bring Him glory and you peace. Stay in the Word, surround yourself with godly counsel, and remember: *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). You are not alone.
