We lift you up before the Father in the name of Jesus Christ, knowing that He alone is your strength and refuge in this storm. Your heartache is deep, and the spiritual warfare you describe is real, but we stand with you in declaring that no weapon formed against you will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Your wife’s words and actions are not just an attack on you—they are an attack on the covenant of marriage that God Himself established, and on the peace and holiness He desires in your home. The enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together, but we rebuke these schemes in the mighty name of Jesus, commanding every spirit of strife, confusion, and bitterness to flee from your household.
The Scriptures are clear about the power of the tongue and the consequences of unchecked sin. Proverbs 18:21 warns, *"Death and life are in the power of the tongue; those who love it will eat its fruit."* Your wife’s cursing is not only grieving the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 4:29-30) but is also sowing seeds of destruction in her own life and yours. Yet we must remember that *"the Lord’s servant must not quarrel, but be gentle towards all, able to teach, patient, in gentleness correcting those who oppose him: perhaps God may give them repentance leading to a full knowledge of the truth"* (2 Timothy 2:24-25). Your persistence in warning her and sharing Scripture is commendable, but we urge you not to grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9). Even if she does not seem to hear you now, the Word of God will not return void (Isaiah 55:11). Keep speaking truth in love, but also trust that the Lord is the one who convicts and transforms hearts—not you.
That said, we must also address the exhaustion and bitterness that is creeping into your own heart. It is right to desire justice, but we are called to *"repay no one evil for evil"* and to *"not avenge yourselves, but give place to God’s wrath, for it is written: 'Vengeance is mine; I will repay,’ says the Lord"* (Romans 12:17, 19). Letting her "reap the consequences" without further warning may feel justified, but we must be careful not to harden our own hearts in the process. Jesus tells us, *"But I tell you, don’t resist him who is evil; but whoever strikes you on your right cheek, turn to him the other also"* (Matthew 5:39). This does not mean enabling sin, but it does mean responding with a supernatural love that only Christ can provide. Your wife’s accusations—even the absurd claim that your faith and calmness mean you are cheating—reveal a spirit of fear, insecurity, and possibly conviction in her own heart. Pray for her salvation and softening, for *"the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom"* (Proverbs 9:10), and right now, she is walking in rebellion against that fear.
We also urge you to examine your own heart before the Lord. Have you forgiven her, as Christ has forgiven you? Unforgiveness will only bind you to the pain and give the enemy a foothold (Matthew 6:14-15). This does not mean excusing her behavior, but it does mean releasing her to God’s justice and mercy. Additionally, we encourage you to seek godly counsel—whether from a pastor, elder, or biblical counselor—who can walk with you through this trial. You were not meant to carry this burden alone. The body of Christ is called to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and we stand with you in prayer and support.
As for the financial, spiritual, and physical toll this has taken on you, we declare God’s restoration over every area of your life. *"The Lord is close to the broken-hearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). He sees your suffering, and He will repay what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). Trust Him to provide, to heal, and to sustain you, even when the path feels impossible.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our brother who is weary and wounded in this battle for his marriage. Lord, You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), and we ask You to intervene mightily in this situation. Soften our sister’s heart, Lord—break through the hardness, the deception, and the strongholds that have taken root. Convict her deeply of her sin, not to shame her, but to lead her to repentance and restoration. Let her words be seasoned with grace (Colossians 4:6), and let her see the fear of the Lord. Remove every spirit of strife, bitterness, and accusation from her, and fill her instead with Your peace and love.
Father, we also ask for supernatural strength for our brother. Guard his heart from bitterness, unforgiveness, and despair. Renew his mind daily with Your Word, and let him find his refuge in You alone. Provide for him financially, heal his body, and restore his spirit. Surround him with godly men who can speak truth into his life and uphold him in prayer. Let him not grow weary in well-doing, but let him see Your faithfulness in this trial.
Lord, we bind every scheme of the enemy against this marriage. We declare that no weapon formed against our brother will prosper, and every tongue that rises against him in judgment will be condemned (Isaiah 54:17). Let Your will be done in this marriage—whether through restoration or redemption in ways we cannot yet see. Give our brother wisdom to know how to respond, when to speak, and when to be silent. Let Your glory be revealed in this situation, and let both husband and wife be drawn closer to You through it.
We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can heal, restore, and redeem. Amen.
Stand firm, brother. The Lord is your strength, and He will not abandon you. Keep praying, keep trusting, and keep walking in obedience—even when you cannot see the outcome. God is faithful, and He will complete the work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6). We are praying for you and will continue to lift you up before the throne of grace. Do not lose heart.
