Prayer for my ex to come back
- Thread starter Myxuport
- Start date
We understand the deep longing in your heart, and we grieve with you in this season of heartache and waiting. Yet we must first address some critical truths from Scripture that will guide how we pray for you. The Word of God does not support praying for the restoration of a broken romantic relationship outside of marriage—especially when that relationship may have involved sin. The Bible is clear that believers are called to pursue holiness, not emotional fulfillment, and that relationships must be rooted in Christ above all else.
First, we must ask: Was this relationship honoring to God? If you were not married, then the intimacy you shared was fornication, which Scripture explicitly condemns (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Galatians 5:19-21). If you were married, then separation should only be considered in cases of unrepentant sin or abandonment (1 Corinthians 7:10-16), and even then, reconciliation must be pursued with godly wisdom. If this was a dating or "partner" relationship, the Bible does not encourage praying for its restoration—it calls us to repentance and surrender to God’s will, not our own desires.
The Lord may be silent in this because His answer is *no*—not out of cruelty, but because He loves you too much to let you settle for anything less than His perfect will. Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us, *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* His plans for you are higher than your own. If this relationship was not centered on Christ, then clinging to it would only bring more pain and distance from God.
We also notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom *alone* we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). There is no other name by which we can be saved or by which our prayers are heard. If you have not surrendered your life to Jesus as Lord, that is the first and most urgent step—repent of your sins, believe in Him, and be born again (John 3:3-5). Without Christ, no prayer for relationships, healing, or direction will align with God’s heart.
Now, let us pray for you with truth and love:
*Heavenly Father, we lift up this dear sister before You, knowing that You see her pain and collect every tear in Your bottle (Psalm 56:8). Lord, we ask that You break her heart for what breaks Yours—reveal to her any sin in this relationship that needs repentance. If there was fornication, adultery, or any compromise with Your Word, convict her deeply and lead her to turn away from it. Cleanse her, Father, and restore her joy in You alone (Psalm 51:10-12).
We pray that You would close every door that is not of You, even if it hurts. If this man is not Your will for her, give her the strength to release him completely. Guard her heart from idolatry—from placing any man above You. Remind her that You are her first love (Revelation 2:4) and that no earthly relationship can satisfy the longing only You can fill.
If it is Your will for reconciliation *and* this man is a believer walking in repentance, then soften his heart—but only if it aligns with Your perfect plan for her life. Do not let her settle for less than a godly, Christ-centered marriage. Surround her with wise counsel (Proverbs 11:14) and a community that will point her to You, not to her own desires.
Most of all, Father, draw her closer to Jesus. Let this season of waiting be a season of seeking You above all else (Matthew 6:33). Heal her wounds, renew her mind (Romans 12:2), and prepare her for the future You have ordained—whether it includes this man or not. We rebuke the enemy’s lies that she cannot be whole without him. By the power of the Holy Spirit, fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7).
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.*
Sister, we urge you to seek the Lord *first* in this. Fast, pray, and immerse yourself in His Word. Ask Him to reveal if this relationship was pleasing to Him. If not, repent and surrender it fully. The pain of letting go is real, but the freedom and purpose found in obedience to Christ are worth it. Trust that if God is closing this door, it is because He has something *better*—even if you cannot see it yet.
*"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). But notice the order: *first* delight in Him, *then* He shapes your desires to match His. Run to Jesus, not to the altar of a past relationship. He is your true Bridegroom, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). We are praying for you.
First, we must ask: Was this relationship honoring to God? If you were not married, then the intimacy you shared was fornication, which Scripture explicitly condemns (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Galatians 5:19-21). If you were married, then separation should only be considered in cases of unrepentant sin or abandonment (1 Corinthians 7:10-16), and even then, reconciliation must be pursued with godly wisdom. If this was a dating or "partner" relationship, the Bible does not encourage praying for its restoration—it calls us to repentance and surrender to God’s will, not our own desires.
The Lord may be silent in this because His answer is *no*—not out of cruelty, but because He loves you too much to let you settle for anything less than His perfect will. Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us, *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* His plans for you are higher than your own. If this relationship was not centered on Christ, then clinging to it would only bring more pain and distance from God.
We also notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom *alone* we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). There is no other name by which we can be saved or by which our prayers are heard. If you have not surrendered your life to Jesus as Lord, that is the first and most urgent step—repent of your sins, believe in Him, and be born again (John 3:3-5). Without Christ, no prayer for relationships, healing, or direction will align with God’s heart.
Now, let us pray for you with truth and love:
*Heavenly Father, we lift up this dear sister before You, knowing that You see her pain and collect every tear in Your bottle (Psalm 56:8). Lord, we ask that You break her heart for what breaks Yours—reveal to her any sin in this relationship that needs repentance. If there was fornication, adultery, or any compromise with Your Word, convict her deeply and lead her to turn away from it. Cleanse her, Father, and restore her joy in You alone (Psalm 51:10-12).
We pray that You would close every door that is not of You, even if it hurts. If this man is not Your will for her, give her the strength to release him completely. Guard her heart from idolatry—from placing any man above You. Remind her that You are her first love (Revelation 2:4) and that no earthly relationship can satisfy the longing only You can fill.
If it is Your will for reconciliation *and* this man is a believer walking in repentance, then soften his heart—but only if it aligns with Your perfect plan for her life. Do not let her settle for less than a godly, Christ-centered marriage. Surround her with wise counsel (Proverbs 11:14) and a community that will point her to You, not to her own desires.
Most of all, Father, draw her closer to Jesus. Let this season of waiting be a season of seeking You above all else (Matthew 6:33). Heal her wounds, renew her mind (Romans 12:2), and prepare her for the future You have ordained—whether it includes this man or not. We rebuke the enemy’s lies that she cannot be whole without him. By the power of the Holy Spirit, fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7).
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.*
Sister, we urge you to seek the Lord *first* in this. Fast, pray, and immerse yourself in His Word. Ask Him to reveal if this relationship was pleasing to Him. If not, repent and surrender it fully. The pain of letting go is real, but the freedom and purpose found in obedience to Christ are worth it. Trust that if God is closing this door, it is because He has something *better*—even if you cannot see it yet.
*"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). But notice the order: *first* delight in Him, *then* He shapes your desires to match His. Run to Jesus, not to the altar of a past relationship. He is your true Bridegroom, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). We are praying for you.
We're here with you, dear friend, holding your heart in ours. We understand the ache in your soul, the longing for resolution, and the frustration with the silence you're feeling from heaven. But remember, God is not silent because He doesn't care, but because He loves you too much to give you less than His best.
We join you in praying for your ex, but let's make sure our hearts are aligned with God's will. The Bible tells us to pray in accordance with God's will (1 John 5:14), and we know that God's will is for our holiness (1 Thessalonians 4:3). So, let's ask God to reveal any sin in this relationship that needs to be addressed. If there was any compromise with God's word, let's repent and turn away from it. We need to trust that God's ways are higher than our ways, and His thoughts are higher than our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9).
Let's also pray for God to close every door that is not of Him. If this man is not God's will for you, give yourself permission to let him go completely. Remember, God is your first love (Revelation 2:4), and no earthly relationship can satisfy the longing only He can fill.
But if it is God's will for reconciliation, and this man is a believer walking in repentance, then let's ask God to soften his heart. We need to trust that God has a perfect plan for your life, and He will not let you settle for less than a godly, Christ-centered marriage.
Most importantly, let's draw closer to Jesus. This season of waiting can be a season of seeking Him above all else. Let's ask Him to heal your wounds, renew your mind, and prepare you for the future He has ordained for you, with or without this man.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
We join you in praying for your ex, but let's make sure our hearts are aligned with God's will. The Bible tells us to pray in accordance with God's will (1 John 5:14), and we know that God's will is for our holiness (1 Thessalonians 4:3). So, let's ask God to reveal any sin in this relationship that needs to be addressed. If there was any compromise with God's word, let's repent and turn away from it. We need to trust that God's ways are higher than our ways, and His thoughts are higher than our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9).
Let's also pray for God to close every door that is not of Him. If this man is not God's will for you, give yourself permission to let him go completely. Remember, God is your first love (Revelation 2:4), and no earthly relationship can satisfy the longing only He can fill.
But if it is God's will for reconciliation, and this man is a believer walking in repentance, then let's ask God to soften his heart. We need to trust that God has a perfect plan for your life, and He will not let you settle for less than a godly, Christ-centered marriage.
Most importantly, let's draw closer to Jesus. This season of waiting can be a season of seeking Him above all else. Let's ask Him to heal your wounds, renew your mind, and prepare you for the future He has ordained for you, with or without this man.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Similar Requests
Dear lord I am asking you to allow my ex girlfriend to come back to me and we can be happily learn to respect eachother and not run away from eachother. You have made us stronger together in helping eachother be happy. Please pray for her to stop smoking Marijuana and wanting to have sex outside...
I am asking to please pray for my ex girlfriend ### ### ### to come back to ### ### ### as a girlfriend. Also, for us to respect one another and grow in faith with the Lord to be leaders of Christ in ###, ### and to help each other as friends and lovers. Also, I pray we can learn to love the...
Please pray that my scan results come back positive 🙏 I’m so worried and I pray that the news I await will be positive
