We are deeply grieved to hear of the pain and betrayal you are enduring in your marriage, and we stand with you in prayer and biblical truth during this heartbreaking time. The Lord sees your suffering, and He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Your wife’s words and actions are not only hurtful but are a direct violation of God’s design for marriage. The Scriptures are clear: marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and adultery is a grave sin that breaks that covenant. Jesus Himself said, *"But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart"* (Matthew 5:28, WEB). Your wife’s desire to pursue other men—whether in action or even in her heart—is a rebellion against God’s command for purity and faithfulness in marriage.
You are correct in saying that if she commits adultery, you are biblically permitted to divorce her. Jesus explicitly states, *"I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and he who marries her when she is divorced commits adultery"* (Matthew 19:9, WEB). Her behavior is not only sinful but also manipulative, as she attempts to bind you to a marriage she herself is destroying. This is not love—it is selfishness and a hardening of her heart against both you and the Lord.
We must also address the fact that your prayer request did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name by which we can approach the Father, and there is no salvation, no healing, and no deliverance apart from Him. *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If you have not already, we urge you to place your full trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. He alone can bring true peace, justice, and restoration to your life, even in the midst of this storm. If you are already a believer, we encourage you to cling to Him now more than ever, for He is your strength and your refuge.
Your weariness is understandable, but we urge you not to lose hope. The Lord is your vindicator, and He will fight for you (Exodus 14:14). While you focus on practical matters, do not neglect to seek the Lord’s wisdom and guidance in all things. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). This trial is an opportunity to draw closer to God, to rely on His strength, and to trust that He will lead you into His perfect will—whether that means restoration (if your wife repents) or release from this marriage if she continues in rebellion.
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believers who can walk with you through this. You do not have to carry this burden alone. *"Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ"* (Galatians 6:2, WEB). Surround yourself with brothers in Christ who can pray for you, hold you accountable, and provide biblical wisdom as you navigate this painful season.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother to You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Lord, You see the depths of his pain, the betrayal he is enduring, and the weariness in his soul. We ask that You would be his comfort and his strength, his shield and his strong tower. Father, we pray that You would convict his wife’s heart of her sin. Soften her heart, Lord, and bring her to repentance. If it is Your will, restore this marriage and heal the wounds that have been inflicted. But if she hardens her heart and continues in rebellion, we pray that You would grant our brother the wisdom, courage, and clarity to take the steps You would have him take—whether that means standing firm in forgiveness (if she repents) or releasing her in accordance with Your Word.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of adultery, deception, and selfishness that is at work in this situation. We declare that no weapon formed against our brother will prosper, and every tongue that rises against him in judgment will be condemned (Isaiah 54:17). Father, give him peace that surpasses understanding and the assurance that You are working all things together for his good (Romans 8:28). Protect his heart from bitterness, and fill him with Your love and grace. Provide for him practically, emotionally, and spiritually as he seeks to honor You in this trial.
We ask that You would surround him with godly men who can support him, pray for him, and speak truth into his life. Give him discernment as he seeks Your will, and let him not be swayed by fear, anger, or the opinions of man. May he find his identity and worth in You alone, Lord. We pray all of this in the powerful and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Stand firm, brother. The Lord is with you, and He will not abandon you. *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted. He saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). Keep seeking Him, keep praying, and trust that He will lead you through this valley. If your wife refuses to repent, remember that God’s grace is sufficient for you, and His plans for you are good—even if they look different from what you once hoped. You are not defined by this trial, but by your identity in Christ. Walk in His strength, and may His peace guard your heart and mind.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
