Prayer for marriage and stability, patience in my waiting.

[Theseabird]

I have been single for most of my life and lately have stepped back into the dating pool. Dating is so different than it was years ago. I’m talking to and meeting lots of men who profess to be Christians but are nominal Christians at best. It is genuinely disheartening as a Christian woman who has taken the time to work on myself, grow in my faith, become rooted and grounded in the Lord and His word. I am seeking a man who loves the Lord, obeys Him, is open to having a family, but I’m coming up empty when it comes to meeting such a man. Please pray for me as I don’t want to make rash decisions and want to wait for who God has for me. I haven’t dated since last year when I went on a date with a professing Christian man who ghosted me after our date. I am losing hope, so pray for strength and confidence in my waiting period and patience to as I seek God’s will in all of this. Sometimes I think I’m destined to be alone and yet I still have a strong desire to be married, to have a family. I don’t know if I’m to be alone or to find someone but I still have a small amount of hope that there’s someone out there that I haven’t met yet. I have some health issues I constantly dealing with and often find that men like the energetic, fun version of me, but don’t know how to respond to me on my “bad days” when I can barely move or do anything but rest. I long to find someone who loves me for me, not just how fun I am to be around on my good days. I know the Lord loves me, cares for me and accepts me as I am on my good and bad days, but I would love to have a husband who also “gets me” and cares enough to love me as I am, helps me grow in my faith and provides stability where I need it. I long to be someone’s safe place and helper. I’m so tired of doing everything on my own and carrying every burden in silence. I am weary. I currently live with and care for my aging, elderly mother who tells me “no man will ever want you and if you find a man, he will leave you.” I know these are lies from the devil and her words are spoken in anger and hatred towards me, but they cut me to the core. For a long time, I took a break from dating because I realized I was just going on dates to prove her wrong and not focusing on men who embodied what I was looking for in regards to spiritual maturity. I did this out of loneliness and fear of being alone. When I would bring guys over to meet my mother, she would disregard that we were dating and spend weeks trying to convince me that the guy only saw me as a friend and that I wasn’t attractive enough to be seen as more. This hurt me greatly. I took a long break and allowed myself to rest and grow spiritually through Bible study and prayer, spending time with other believers through church. Then I went on a date last year and afterwards, my sister became angry with me, said I was too “egotistical” and shamed me for wanting a husband. That really wrecked me because it’s as if all these years of jealousy she’d never verbalized came to the surface and she aimed everything she had at me. I was absolutely floored and so hurt. She is married and has children, so I assumed as my sister, she would want me to experience the same thing she has found. Our relationship has not been the same since. I have very little support in my family when it comes to my search for marriage and a family and realizing that has made feel demoralized and truly hopeless at times. However, God can do anything and as a believer, I rest in that truth. God has been so good to me, and I know He’s protecting me through all this, loves me more than anyone could, but it’s hard to be excited or happy about meeting anyone when I think of how they’ll have to meet my mother, my sister, how I will continue to care for my mother once I’m in a relationship and how unsupportive my sister is towards me. Please pray for perseverance and that the Lord will continually draw me closer to Him through all this. Please pray for me as I continue to trust His plan for my life.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart, dear sister, and we stand with you in prayer, lifting your burdens before the Lord. Your longing for a godly marriage and a family is not only natural but also a reflection of the desire God has placed within you for companionship and partnership in His service. The weariness you feel is understandable, but we want to remind you that your hope is not in the shifting sands of human relationships but in the unchanging character of our Heavenly Father.

First, we must address the lies that have been spoken over you by your mother and, at times, your sister. The words "no man will ever want you" and "he will leave you" are not from God but from the enemy, who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). We rebuke those words in the name of Jesus and declare that they have no power over you. The Lord has not given you a spirit of fear but of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and your worth is found in Christ alone, not in the opinions of others. We pray that God would heal the wounds caused by these words and replace them with His truth. May He silence the voice of the enemy and fill your heart with the assurance of His love and purpose for you.

Your desire for a husband who loves the Lord, obeys Him, and is committed to marriage and family is a godly one. Scripture tells us that "he who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22). However, we must also caution you against the temptation to settle for less than God’s best out of loneliness or fear. The men you have encountered who profess to be Christians but live as nominal believers are not the ones the Lord has for you. We pray that God would give you discernment to recognize those who are truly walking with Him and the patience to wait for His timing. Do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season you will reap if you don’t faint (Galatians 6:9).

We also want to address the pain caused by your sister’s reaction to your desire for marriage. It is heartbreaking when those closest to us do not support or celebrate our godly desires. However, we must remember that our ultimate validation comes from the Lord, not from others. We pray that God would soften your sister’s heart and restore your relationship, but more importantly, we pray that you would find your identity and worth in Christ alone. Your sister’s jealousy or bitterness does not define you, nor does it limit what God can do in your life.

Your health struggles and the burden of caring for your aging mother are not overlooked by the Lord. It is understandable that you long for a husband who will love and support you in all seasons of life, not just the "good days." We pray that God would bring a man into your life who sees you as Christ sees you—whole, valued, and deeply loved. A man who will stand by you in sickness and in health, who will encourage your faith, and who will be a true partner in every sense of the word. Until then, we pray that the Lord would be your strength and your shield, sustaining you in the days when you feel you can barely move (Psalm 28:7).

You mentioned feeling demoralized and hopeless at times, but we want to remind you that God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Your story is not over, and the Lord is not finished with you. We pray that He would renew your hope and fill you with His peace as you wait on Him. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).

We also pray for your mother, that the Lord would minister to her heart and bring healing to the bitterness and anger she harbors. May He soften her heart toward you and toward Him, and may He give you wisdom and grace as you continue to care for her. We know this is a heavy burden, but we trust that God will provide the strength and support you need.

Lastly, we want to encourage you to continue seeking the Lord above all else. Your relationship with Him is the foundation for everything else in your life. As you draw near to Him, He will draw near to you (James 4:8). Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in fellowship with other believers. Allow Him to fill the voids in your heart and to remind you of His faithfulness. You are not alone, and you are not forgotten. The Lord sees your tears, hears your prayers, and is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).

Let us pray for you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, lifting her heart and her desires to You. Lord, You know the longing of her heart for a godly marriage and a family. You know the weariness she feels and the lies that have been spoken over her. We ask that You would silence the voice of the enemy and replace those lies with Your truth. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made, and that her worth is found in You alone.

Father, we pray for patience and perseverance as she waits for Your timing. Give her discernment to recognize the men who are truly walking with You and the strength to resist the temptation to settle for less than Your best. Surround her with godly community and fill her heart with hope as she trusts in You.

Lord, we ask that You would bring healing to her relationship with her mother and her sister. Soften their hearts toward her and toward You. Give her wisdom and grace as she cares for her mother, and provide the support she needs in this season.

Father, we pray for the man You have prepared for her. Prepare his heart as well, that he would be a man after Your own heart, who loves You above all else and is committed to marriage and family. May he be a source of strength, encouragement, and love for her in all seasons of life.

Above all, Lord, we pray that You would draw her closer to You. Fill her with Your peace and Your presence. Remind her that she is never alone, and that You are working all things together for her good. Renew her hope and her strength as she waits on You.

We ask all these things in the precious name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

Dear friend,

We hear your heart's cry for a godly marriage and family, and we stand with you in prayer. We understand the weariness you feel and the discouragement you've faced, but remember, God is faithful and His love for you never fails.

We want to encourage you to keep seeking the Lord with all your heart. Trust in Him, and He will direct your path. Keep growing in your faith and drawing closer to Him. As you do, He will draw you to the right person at the right time.

We also want to remind you that God has a purpose in your waiting. He is using this time to mold you, to grow your faith, and to prepare you for the future. Trust that He knows what He's doing, even when it's hard to see.

We pray that God would give you patience and perseverance as you wait. We pray that He would fill you with hope and confidence in His plan for your life. We pray that He would bring the right person into your life, someone who loves the Lord, obeys Him, and is committed to marriage and family.

We also pray for your mother and sister. We ask that God would heal any bitterness or anger in their hearts, and that He would soften their hearts towards you. We pray that your relationships with them would be restored and strengthened.

Lastly, we want to remind you that you are never alone. God is always with you, and He loves you more than you can imagine. Trust in Him, and He will see you through.

Keep holding on, dear sister. Your story is not over yet. God is working in your life, and He has great things in store for you.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.