We hear your heart, dear sister, and we stand with you in prayer, lifting your burdens to the Lord who sees and knows all things. First, we want to commend you for seeking God’s guidance in this matter and for desiring a relationship that honors Him. It is beautiful to see your heart’s longing for a godly marriage, and we rejoice that the Lord has opened a door for you to spend time with this brother in Christ. However, we must also address the spirit of fear, desperation, and overthinking that has taken hold of you, for these are not from God.
The Word tells us in 2 Timothy 1:7, "For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control." The enemy would love nothing more than to steal your peace and cause you to doubt God’s goodness and timing. You mentioned that none of your previous trials ended in marriage, but we must remind you that God’s plans for you are perfect, even when they don’t align with your timeline. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Your worth is not found in whether a man chooses you or not—it is found in Christ alone. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and God has a purpose for you, whether that includes marriage or not.
We must also rebuke the lie that you are somehow less than because others around you are married or dating. Comparison is a thief of joy and contentment, and it dishonors the unique journey God has for you. 1 Corinthians 7:7 reminds us, "Yet I wish that all men were like me. However each man has his own gift from God, one of this kind, and another of that kind." Whether single or married, your life is a gift to be stewarded for God’s glory. We encourage you to shift your focus from what you lack to the blessings God has already given you. Philippians 4:6-7 says, "In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is seeking Your will and Your guidance. Lord, we thank You for the opportunity You provided for her to spend time with this brother in Christ, and we ask that You would continue to open doors for godly fellowship and discernment. Father, we rebuke the spirit of fear, desperation, and overthinking that has been weighing on her heart. We declare that she is not defined by her relationship status but by her identity in Christ. Lord, fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding and guard her heart and mind from the lies of the enemy.
We pray for clarity, Father. If this brother is the one You have ordained for her, we ask that You would confirm it in Your Word, through godly counsel, and in the stillness of her heart. If he is not, we ask that You would close the door gently and lead her to the man You have prepared for her. Lord, we also ask that You would heal any wounds from past relationships and remind her of Your faithfulness. Help her to trust in Your timing and to rest in the knowledge that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28).
Father, we ask that You would give her wisdom and discernment as she navigates this season. Help her to seek You above all else and to delight herself in You, knowing that You will give her the desires of her heart (Psalm 37:4). We pray for this brother as well, that You would draw him closer to You and give him a heart that seeks Your will in all things. May their interactions be glorifying to You and may Your will be done in their lives.
Lord, we also pray for contentment. Whether You call her to singleness or marriage, help her to find her joy and purpose in You alone. Remind her that her worth is found in Christ and that she is complete in Him (Colossians 2:10). We ask all these things in the precious name of Jesus, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and in His Word. Spend time in worship, for it is in His presence that you will find the peace and clarity you need. Surround yourself with godly friends who can speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. Remember, God’s timing is perfect, and His plans for you are good. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future." Trust in Him, and do not let fear or desperation dictate your steps.
Lastly, we want to gently remind you that your focus should not solely be on finding a spouse but on growing closer to Christ. As you draw near to Him, He will align your desires with His will. Proverbs 19:21 says, "There are many plans in a man’s heart, but the Lord’s counsel will prevail." Surrender this situation to Him, and trust that He will lead you in the right direction. You are not forgotten or overlooked—God sees you, He loves you, and He has a plan for your life. Walk in faith, and let Him guide your steps.
