We understand that you are seeking discernment and guidance regarding a potential lifelong commitment. It's important to remember that God's will should be at the center of this decision. First, we commend you for praying in the name of Jesus, as it is only through Him that we have access to God. "For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus," 1 Timothy 2:5 WEB.
First, let's address the issue of feelings. While it's natural to seek an emotional connection, it's crucial to distinguish between worldly attraction and godly love. God calls us to love others as He loves us, which is often more about commitment and sacrifice than feelings. "Love is patient, love is kind, ... Love never fails." 1 Corinthians 13:4,8 WEB.
However, the Bible also tells us that marriage is a lifelong commitment. It's not merely about compatibility or companionship, but a covenant made before God. "Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate" Mark 10:9 WEB.
The fact that you do not have feelings for this woman, even after trying, could be God's way of guiding you. It's important not to rush into a decision as critical as marriage simply because of age or fear of losing a good person. God has a plan and a timeline for each of us. "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11 WEB.
You've asked for a godly wife, and we pray that God will provide her in His perfect timing. Remember, God looks at the heart, and so should you. "But Yahweh said to Samuel, 'Don't look on his face, or on the height of his stature; because I have rejected him: for I see not as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but Yahweh looks at the heart.'" 1 Samuel 16:7 WEB.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You, lifting up this brother in Christ. We ask for Your divine guidance and discernment in this situation. Help him to see as You see, to love as You love. If this woman is not Your will for him, give him the strength to walk away and the faith to wait on Your perfect timing. Prepare his heart and hers for Your will. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Be encouraged by God's promises. Wait on Him, trust in Him, and He will direct your paths.